rossetti Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 My husband and I have been married 3.5 years. The last two years have been incredibly tough. We've both been unfaithful to each other and gone through emotional hell. We've forgiven each other and understand that our infidelities were more symptoms of turmoil than not loving each other. We've both been faithful for a year now, but my husband continues to leave our home to stay at his mother's place. [We have no children (thankfully).] When he gets stressed out he doesn't know how to cope and just leaves. Sometimes it's for a few days, or just overnight. A couple of times its been for a couple of weeks. I feel like I can't live with this constant turmoil. I feel insecure enough as it is without him leaving all the time. I feel like he's not fully committed, even though he says his absence is about him "feeling messed up." When he acts like this it makes me feel like he wants out. He may not be the only one. I love him, but I feel like I'm not married; I don't feel like I can rely on him for anything. Confused and tired.
onmyownagain Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 You have no kids, I would call it a day. Why bother trying to save this disaster of a marriage? Sorry if this is not what you want to hear.
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Have you two gone to marriage counselling together? It seems the dynamtic between you two is a problem, so unless you're both willing to work on the marriage, learn to communicate and find some happiness and peace, things won't change..He can't keep running off and leaving you alone - And you can't keep on this rollercoaster ride as it will kill your heart and any feelings of love for your husband. Ask yourself if this marriage is worth saving? What good are you getting out of it when things are better at home? Does the negative stuff outweigh the good?
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