trashingday Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 my boyfriend and i have been dating 2 years and 2 months about 1.2 years of our relationship i have lived 2 hours away from him...its hard, but doable...at times i missed the physical contact most...that and he could work on sending me cute text messages every once and awhile!!! ...but we've made it work and usually see each other every other week. if not every week....i'm about to graduate from college ..he's done and has a good job and is comfortable living where he does....but you see...i met him there (in boston) at a time when I knew i was leaving...we dated until i transferred schools and have continued but i left boston for a reason and had no intentions of moving back there....but he's settled where he is and not really in a place where he can pick up and move (with loans, car payments, rent etc) which is completely understandable...but this is where the problem comes in...i am soooo torn! I have plans to move back home for the summer to save money...which is 24 hours away from him...this will be for three months...we can survive being away for three months...but what i'm not sure about is what i should do after those three months. the only way we can stay together is if i move back to boston....do i move there to be with him?? i really believe that i could and would marry this man. he is a beautiful person who compliments me very well ..obviously we both have things we can work on individually but i'm practical and realistic and know that there are no prince charmings out there...i really believe that we have a great foundation that a very long and loving relationship can be based on. we communicate very openly and don't play games we know how to have fun and laugh... these are my options i could a) move back to boston to give it a second chance and us a chance? or b) i could move to the west coast to grow as a women independently ..with the very slim chance of getting back together i also know that if i choose a...that doesn't mean in a year from now (if it doesn't work out) i can go with b) ...well anyway...you can see my confusion and heartache and frustration ....and he sees it too...so he/me/ ..we decided to take a "break" so that i can figure it out ..he doesn't want to be with me knowing that we are going to break up in 3 months....he says it hurts him to look at me..and breaks his heart knowing that i'm "already gone" ......i love him to death..but also know i need to make this decision for the right reasons..so i can't hold it against him later on or something? (which i hope i wouldnt do) but does anyone have any advice??? any stories? regrets? beliefs? just anything that will help me feel less alone in this. ...i realize that this decision is ultimately mine and no one can make it for me..but it'd be great to get some advice thanks, broken hearted near Valentines day
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