JustinWolf Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 From a dumpee's point of view, what if you started NC and after like 5 months of NC from both sides you decided to say hi, in chances of getting back together? Asking to go out for a cup of coffee or anything as such, would you?
Lyssa Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 It depends on how I feel in that 5 months but I'd say no. I avoid getting back together with an X. It'd be easier but for me, once it's over - it's over. I got hurt really bad and we continued being friends cause I loved him so much but it was painful. After a while, it made me realised that I was just hanging on to him cause I was comfortable.
Author JustinWolf Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 It depends on how I feel in that 5 months but I'd say no. I avoid getting back together with an X. It'd be easier but for me, once it's over - it's over. I got hurt really bad and we continued being friends cause I loved him so much but it was painful. After a while, it made me realised that I was just hanging on to him cause I was comfortable. What if you still felt some love for that person and you knew that person is the one you will always love and care for?
Dumbledore Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Definitely not! Or maybe. I mean, definitely maybe. Or not. I guess it couldn't hurt. Or could it? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Once a fool, twice a tool. I'm beginning to have second thoughts. Let me get back to you. Later. Yes, much later. Or tomorrow. How does that sound?
Dumbledore Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 What if you still felt some love for that person and you knew that person is the one you will always love and care for? This is a great "hypothetical." You make up the best stories, man.
Lyssa Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 What if you still felt some love for that person and you knew that person is the one you will always love and care for? Oh that I can't answer unless I feel that way for him. I thought I would always love him but now... not anymore!
oppath Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 If you know that person is the one you will always love and care for you would be with them. If you don't know, maybe you can discuss getting back together. But if both sides knew you would be together. Sure, it's possible, but why are you asking so hypothetically? Yes, it is possible for another chance. What are the odds of it happening and it lasting beyond a month or two before one person realizes "this isn't the same, it is not magical"? 0.05%.
PinkRibbon Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 My opinion is regardless of what you feel for the other person if they don't feel the same way then why contact them 5 months from now or 5 months after you have broken up. If they felt the same about you then you would be together, you wouldn't have been dumped. If you have been dumped and they haven't wanted to get back together in 5 months then no. I personally wouldn't do it but that is just me.
Author JustinWolf Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 "When there's a will, there's a way." Things like that... Do they even actually really mean anything. Or someone said those things to actually sound smart and nice. I feel it's the latter. Why? Because lately, the will hasn't been finding the way. In fact, the will still being strong... the way is totally lost in a fog and nothing seems to be clearing it. Sorry for the metaphore but I'm sure those who have been in a breakup must know what it means. And to answer my own question, after 5 months or so of NC, I would definately try to get in touch if I still had feelings. Life's hard. Love's a *****.
ninjaturtles Posted February 13, 2008 Posted February 13, 2008 I believe in second chances, but if you were the dumpee, I dont think you should get in touch with her. I guess it also depends on how she treated you after the breakup. If she treated you badly, please dont attempt to get in touch. However, if things were not so bad maybe you can. But whats the point though? If her feelings have not changed( positively) what's the point of re opening new wounds and possibly risk being rejected for the 2nd time? Thats my 2 cents..Every situation is different and people have succeded with 2nd chances, nevertheless the feelings have to be 100 percent mutual. If not, drop it once and for all and dont look back. It will only bring about a reoccurence of the negative feelings associated with rejection.xx
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