CrzyInNYC09 Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I really need help.... I've been dating this guy for about 2.5 months. Things have been absolutely great. Great communication.... we clicked. About 2.5 weeks ago he spent the weekend with me. It was our first "sleep over". He confessed he didn't want me seeing anyone else and that he has strong emotions for me. He used the words "us and we" and we spend the entire weekend laughing, holding hands and talking. It was also the first time we ever slept together. I heard from him later that week... we texted back and forth about making plans and whatnot. We're both busy so texting is a normal form of communication for us both. Well I got a text later the next week saying, "baby things are really stressful. i'll call you tomorrow." I've gotten several "I'll call you tomorrows." with no phone call. He mentioned a family member was ill among a few other things.... then the communication stopped. I'd text every once in awhile saying I was thinking about him and he'd respond thanking me and apologizing for being MIA and promised to call soon. Then I finally broke down and sent him a message letting him know I was here for him and didn't mind giving him space. He responded that we needed to talk bc he didn't want me wondering things that weren't the case or worrying about him. I haven't heard from him since. I've called one time during this whole ordeal (yesterday) and got a voicemail saying his phone was broke and requesting a number so he could return the call. It's been 3 weeks since I've seen him..... I'm so confused. Are we over? Why hasn't he called? Even if he is stressed shouldn't I get some form of information? What do I do? Forget him? Wait awhile and try to call him again? I am so confused and heartbroken. Advice is appreciated.
ratingsguy Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 How long has it been since you last heard from him? Do you live relatively close to one another?
Author CrzyInNYC09 Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 It's been almost a week since the last text I got from him. Yeah we live in the same city.
AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 If you've not seen your boyfriend in over 3 weeks and he wasn't supposed to be away on vacation, i'd say there's a pretty good chance you should consider it over. I hate to put it so bluntly but, you dont go that long without seeing one another, esp in the beginning when you're all in that lust phase you know? I'd suggest getting together and talking ASAP to try to salvage it, if it's what you both want.
ratingsguy Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 If you've not seen your boyfriend in over 3 weeks and he wasn't supposed to be away on vacation, i'd say there's a pretty good chance you should consider it over. I hate to put it so bluntly but, you dont go that long without seeing one another, esp in the beginning when you're all in that lust phase you know? I'd suggest getting together and talking ASAP to try to salvage it, if it's what you both want. I agree completely. Ask to get together and just lay all the cards down on the table. I hate saying this out loud, but it sounds like this guy may have a wife or girlfriend. I hope I'm wrong, but I'm smelling a rat.
Author CrzyInNYC09 Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 I'll call him after week... if anything, he'll need to hear what an ass he really is.
AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I'll call him after week... if anything, he'll need to hear what an ass he really is. You are a patient woman, Crzy. Personally I wish I could be that patient hehe.
Little Shy Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Please read my recent thread if you want to hear about someone that can relate. One thing is though, I did not sleep with my guy, but only made out with him. If I had slept with him, and then this behavior, I would be pissed! What's up with his phone? If your guy in a state of financial upheaval as well? I would try & get some answer from him soon as to if there is some sort of major crisis in his life so you can at least try & get some sleep. I really hope that this will get better for you. Keep us posted, and good luck.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Have you considered the possibility that maybe something really is wrong. He did say hes having personal problems and then when you called him there was technical problems with his phone. When his phone has sservice again I would see if he makes contact , if not, then he is slowly trying to dump you without hurting your feelings
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