Prodigal Princess Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 (edited) My friends and I coined this term a few years ago. It seems that, if you are really into someone, you cannot be physically repulsed by them (no matter what they do or how they look). However, if you're not that into someone, you can be repulsed quite quickly. For example, my ex (who I was terribly in love with) could fall asleep naked with legs apart and drool coming out of his mouth and I still adored him. However, towards the end of my last relationship the poor guy couldn't even cough without me being repulsed by it. It definitely signalled the beginning of the end. I just read something spookie wrote about being disgusted by her boyfriend, and I immediately recognised that pursuing that relationship any further would be pointless because she now was out of love/lust/interest with him. I've never known anyone to be repulsed by someone and then it turning into some grand love story... It seems like an obvious theory but it has helped me recognise immediately when things aren't going to work with someone (i.e. if you make me gag by the way you eat your pizza, no matter how great the rest of the relationship is, you're not the love of my life). What do you think? Edited February 11, 2008 by Prodigal Princess
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 When I first met my ex husband, he came down with a serious case of the flu after only dating for a month. I literally spent 2 days taking care of him, seeing him at his worst.... like on the toilet with a bucket in front of him. It didn't even phase me. I was still physically attracted to him after seeing those things.
Florida Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I agree 100%! me too! I have nothing to add, it is so true. Once that repulsion sets in, that's it. It just gets worse. What about irritation? Not repulsion, but where you start to get really irritated at things you didn't before. Like me and my BF used to do it even late at night, now I get irritated that why we started so late, why not earlier when we 1st got in. Or I'll get more irritated when my hair gets caught under on his hand, or if the pillows are piled up all lumpy under my head. I always tell him to slow down, whereas before I never minded. Before, I never used to notice that stuff when we were intimate. Now it all can ruin the moment for me in 2 seconds flat. Same with getting crumbs on the couch even though I always ask him to not do that, or leaving the dishes on the table, even though I ask him each time to take them to the kitchen. Then he leaves them on the counter, not even in the sink. Or maybe I minded but all the lust hormones have went away, and my own preferences are sharply emerging. But I'm not repulsed, just irritated by all these random things.
burning 4 revenge Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 women are so evil..................
Ocean-Blue Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Totally agree with this. If I'm really into someone, there's nothing he can do (short of ****ting his pants) to repulse me.
Author Prodigal Princess Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Totally agree with this. If I'm really into someone, there's nothing he can do (short of ****ting his pants) to repulse me. That reminds me of an earlier thread where women posters were discussing how their men left "bacon strips" in their jocks or on the sheets. Some men are animals!
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Totally agree with this. If I'm really into someone, there's nothing he can do (short of ****ting his pants) to repulse me. Oh.... um.... I have remained with someone who crapped their pants in my presence. lol. I married him. SOmetimes love has no boundaries.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Love is about ACCEPTANCE right...and if you are repulsed by someone, you aren't accepting them, so it's not love. for me, i usually start getting irritated at little things first, things that didn't bothered me before. then the repulsion sets in. then i make the great escape.
Pyro Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 women are satanic....... is that why you are voting for Hillary?
Pyro Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 My friends and I coined this term a few years ago. It seems that, if you are really into someone, you cannot be physically repulsed by them (no matter what they do or how they look). However, if you're not that into someone, you can be repulsed quite quickly. For example, my ex (who I was terribly in love with) could fall asleep naked with legs apart and drool coming out of his mouth and I still adored him. However, towards the end of my last relationship the poor guy couldn't even cough without me being repulsed by it. It definitely signalled the beginning of the end. I just read something spookie wrote about being disgusted by her boyfriend, and I immediately recognised that pursuing that relationship any further would be pointless because she now was out of love/lust/interest with him. I've never known anyone to be repulsed by someone and then it turning into some grand love story... It seems like an obvious theory but it has helped me recognise immediately when things aren't going to work with someone (i.e. if you make me gag by the way you eat your pizza, no matter how great the rest of the relationship is, you're not the love of my life). What do you think? I agree as well. There are times when we will get annoyed with our So's, but never to the point of finding them repulsive physically.
Storyrider Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Maybe it is best for him to do something really repulsive in the very beginning to get it out of the way. Like throw up on you. It could only go uphill from there.
Ocean-Blue Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Oh.... um.... I have remained with someone who crapped their pants in my presence. lol. I married him. SOmetimes love has no boundaries. Well, there are exceptions... I.e. he ingested some kind of strange plant and lost control of his bowels... Even then, it'd take a whole lot of woman to look past that.
burning 4 revenge Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I find it intriguing how men merely become indifferent to the women they lose interest in, while women actually physically loathe the men they lose interest in almost to the point of hatred Ive always known this to be the case. A woman surrenders her body to a man and so when she loses attraction she almost feels violated, while a man feels like hes still just getting some release. I think its physiological
Author Prodigal Princess Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 (edited) Well, there are exceptions... I.e. he ingested some kind of strange plant and lost control of his bowels... Even then, it'd take a whole lot of woman to look past that. Actually, that is the whole point of the "test" - if you are in love with someone, them ****ting their pants won't change a thing. Sure, it's not pleasant, but you wouldn't end the relationship just because of it. On the other hand, if someone you felt "iffy" about did the same thing, you'd be out the door in a second. (For the record D-Lish, I've had an ex do the same thing!) Edited February 11, 2008 by Prodigal Princess
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 My best friend actually had a guy break up with her after 2 months because she farted. He actually told her "I can't date a woman that farts in front of me". lol. Now she gives every guy she sees as date potential the "fart test". If they stick around.... they are worth further exploration.
Ocean-Blue Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 This is a very interesting "test"! I think back to my first relationship and realize how much of all of this makes sense. My ex was, in so many ways, objectively perfect (a prize to covet for sure). But something about him turned me off - I could never put my finger on it, but I always found something to make me not want him. Strange the things we are willing to overlook (or even accept and laugh about) when it's with the right man. And I don't think (going back to B4R's point) that women end up "loathing" a man they longer find attractive. For me, it's always been more of a relief and eventual indifference. The only reason I'd feel anything remotely close to hate is if I felt wronged in some way.
Lovelybird Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 (edited) I think maybe it is more mental than physical repulse. but if a man didn't know you on a deeper level, just attracted by superfical things, then probably he would be repulsed by a fart. as if he never farts Edited February 11, 2008 by Lovelybird
dropdeadlegs Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 The only thing that ever repulsed me was when my H hit on my 13 year old daughter. She wasn't his daughter, but that's besides the point. I won't lie, even that took weeks to set in. Not that I didn't believe or wasn't repulsed (he was gone that day) but it did take weeks for my love to die. That shames me still, even though he has been dead for almost four years.. You assume certain things will have certain reactions, but life doesn't always happen exactly as planned/expected.
becauseofyou Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Totally agree. My friend calls it the "can't bears" - when she can't bear something he does she knows it's over. I think it's very hard to come back from feeling like that about someone, maybe impossible.
monkey00 Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Yeah I agree, it's called beauty lies in the eye of the beholder...
underpants Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Well, I am a weirdo. I perfer to get all that repulsive stuff out in the open early. I find if I can find reasons to hate you...heck, I might like you, and like may turn into to love, or respect. I do find it interesting when people are afraid or repulsed by their own repulsive actions however. I do notice that more often then not. Just my own survey. Funny.
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