Unsure Marie Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I haven't dated in almost nine months. I recently met a guy about a month ago. He has been divorced for a little over two years and has two small children. I have never been married and have no children. He has only dated one other girl since the divorce and has been single for about a year. Our first date went very well. We had a wonderful dinner in a romantic place and had a very long conversation. We have talked on the phone just about everyday since. We have seen each other two other times since but in social settings with friends. And both times have been great. I have a lot of fun with him and he does too (or at least that is what he tells me). My issue is he hasn't taken me out on another "real" date (dinner/movie/coffee) with just me and him together since our first. I realize that he has two small children and doesn't have a lot of time for dating. But it always seems like he has time to go out a couple of times a week with his friends. He was kid free this weekend. I was hoping there would be a date this weekend but ended up disappointed. He did invite me out with his friends on Friday which I accepted and I did have fun but there wasn't any alone time. And he spent the rest of his weekend with his friends too. He seems like he is a really nice guy. I'm just not real happy with the way things are going. I wonder if he is even interested in me? But he is the one who calls everyday. Do I expect to much to soon? Since when is getting together once a week for a couple of hours to much? I'm so lost and confused. Someone please help!
AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Maybe he's still unsure as to how serious he wants to be just yet. It's often hard to move on from dealing with breakups/divorces, etc. If he's making time for you, and seeing you, then maybe give it a little more time. However, if you really feel he's not giving you enough, you might need to talk with him and decide to walk away if it's not what you need/want.
norajane Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 He may have thought inviting you out with his friends was a date. Or, he may be enjoying being single and dating more than one woman without getting into a committed relationship. Divorced guys with kids aren't all looking to jump back into the exclusive pool.
Kamille Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Next time he invites you to join him and his friends, excuse yourself by saying you have other plans but would love to spend some time with him soon. Suggest a dinner. Or a movie. Something that can only be constructed as 'date'. Take it from there.
Author Unsure Marie Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 That's a great idea! I think I'm going to do that. Thanks.
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