joerhp Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Me and my girlfriend of 16 months broke up a few weeks ago and im super confused about everything. originally it started as what i thought was a break when i went to see her the next day i asked her how long we were going to keep on acting like she wasnt my girlfriend she started to cry and i comforted her telling her it would be ok, then that friday she came over to my friends house to drop something off for him while i was there (mainly to see me i figure) anyway that saturday comes and we go to lunch together and i ask her how she has been its only been a few days but if she is happy and she starts crying in the middle of the resturant. after we talk later that night she tells one of my friends ex's that i need to move on despite the fact that she cries all the time about me...anyway i knew something was up so the next day sunday i meet her and we talk she says she was concerned about the lack of ambition she felt i had she thought i was ok with going to a community college and playing baseball when i told her i was finishing my application to an in state school that week she said we would talk about us as soon as i was done..well once i got done no suprise there was no talking about us. we talk casually and then wednesday of last week i am talking to her on the phone and she starts crying saying she misses the way we were but things cant be like that anymore. so friday night comes after she tells me she loves me thursday night while i am sleeping in a text message i am really confused. while we dated we did not drink either of us the whole time, however she goes out and gets wasted friday night at a party, when i tell her that i am going up to my buddies cabin with a few friends and a a few girls she flips out and gets upset, she starts drunk dialing me and i am an ass hole as i am wasted by this time as well i tell her how she broke my heart and how i want another chance...but then later that night when she says she loves me i say who cares. anyway saturday night she goes out and parties again as do i, and we talk all night off and on on the phone. today i have decided that i have to try to move on it was her desicion to break up with me and she knows i wanna be with her i tell her every day my question is should i give up faith she is a year and a half younger than me and me going off to clollege has scared her i think, also she says that we have been fighting more and that i yell to much which perhaps i do but i have told her i am willing to work on it. anyway she says that we cant work right now and we need to live our lives and move on but that we will work someday. anyway its valentines day this thursday and i have not seen her in over a week i was thinking of going to her house and just dropping off flowers at her house saying hapy valentines day im sorry and i hope you have a good trip( she is going to washingtn dc the day after valentines day) is this is a good idea, she clearly still has feelings but i do not know what my best route is to try and get her back i have already commited to working on my temper and calming myself down, it has been 2 weeks and its impossible not to keep contact with her it seems like she is everywhere i go and part of everything i do, what should i make of this situation? what should i do? should i not talk to her for a few weeks and wait till she gets back from dc and ask her to dinner as friends and see how things go? i need some guidance i have admitingly ****ed up but i wanna make things right and i know i can
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Ahhhhhh.... What a big chunk of chunk. Joe, do us all a favor and break that mass up there into smaller, easier to read paragraphs so that we're able to digest it and give you advice.
Recommended Posts