Art_Critic Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 He claims to have gotten sick saturday (to which i replied in the future you should contact your friends/dates/whomever if you fall ill) and also says that yesterday he received news that a cousin passed away (i have no reason to think anyone would make that up but i suppose you never know) and he wasn't in a talking mood. Don't even let this guy in AW... he had gotten sick ???... hahaha and then he lays out the ole my cousin vinny died.. ( meaning : Show me sympathy for being a jerk to you ).. He may very well have had a cousin die.. but the info didn't belong in this conversation.. he was using it to disarm you. Evidently the date he went on or that he stood you up for didn't put out and now he is willing to GIVE YOU a second chance..
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Don't even let this guy in AW... he had gotten sick ???... hahaha and then he lays out the ole my cousin vinny died.. ( meaning : Show me sympathy for being a jerk to you ).. He may very well have had a cousin die.. but the info didn't belong in this conversation.. he was using it to disarm you. Evidently the date he went on or that he stood you up for didn't put out and now he is willing to GIVE YOU a second chance.. Don't worry, my BS meter is up on this one. I'm just curious at this point to see if i can catch him in anything blatant. I don't intend to get involved. I made my point in the email that i found it disrespectful that he didn't call saturday. No, he's not off any proverbial hooks that easily. I wonder if it would be crossing the line if i requested the cousins name to look for the obit. Ok that's just wrong but, my radar is way up on this one.
Always Wrong Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Don't worry, my BS meter is up on this one. I'm just curious at this point to see if i can catch him in anything blatant. I don't intend to get involved. I made my point in the email that i found it disrespectful that he didn't call saturday. No, he's not off any proverbial hooks that easily. I wonder if it would be crossing the line if i requested the cousins name to look for the obit. Ok that's just wrong but, my radar is way up on this one. Oh wow, what a brilliant idea! Call and tell him you want to send flowers! A relative of someone you were interested in died. If it were your relative and he didn't even offer to send flowers, you'd consider that rude wouldn't you? If it's legit, send an arrangement with a condolenses card to the mortuary. That would be a very nice thing to do. But... if it's not legit, you've smoked out a snake.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Oh wow, what a brilliant idea! Call and tell him you want to send flowers! A relative of someone you were interested in died. If it were your relative and he didn't even offer to send flowers, you'd consider that rude wouldn't you? If it's legit, send an arrangement with a condolenses card to the mortuary. That would be a very nice thing to do. But... if it's not legit, you've smoked out a snake. That is a good idea, but I've got operatives on the inside I'm asking before I ask him for info...lol. I'll give my operatives a day or so and see what happens. I'm sure sending flowers this week would be tight with the stupid "holiday" on thursday....lol. If somebody passed on a Sunday I'd presume they'd be buried by Thurs/Fri. We'll also see if he tells me he's off work and/or going to a viewing this week, but he could always make that crap up too so I've got someone he'd not suspect involved.
Always Wrong Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 That is a good idea, but I've got operatives on the inside I'm asking before I ask him for info...lol. I'll give my operatives a day or so and see what happens. I'm sure sending flowers this week would be tight with the stupid "holiday" on thursday....lol. If somebody passed on a Sunday I'd presume they'd be buried by Thurs/Fri. We'll also see if he tells me he's off work and/or going to a viewing this week, but he could always make that crap up too so I've got someone he'd not suspect involved. You rock AW! Please, please let us know what you find out.....................ha, I'm turning into a gossip! lol
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 You rock AW! Please, please let us know what you find out.....................ha, I'm turning into a gossip! lol Don't worry I'm sure I won't be able to refrain from posting this continuing saga...
Teacher's Pet Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Um, is this implying that you aren't obnoxious without her? If so, I missed that memo.... OOOOOOOOOOOOH SNAP! True, but this is a different kind of obnoxious. See you tomorrow night! -TP destined to be the new trivia champ:)
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 So i did get more dirt on the guy. I've not found out about the whole death thing, but our "mutual friend" told me she wouldn't be surprised if he did end up bailing for a different offer on saturday, and that he tends to spend his time with go-go types (which would explain why he's still single at his age). She apologized to me and said she didn't think he'd start seeing anyone within our circles and I said don't worry about it. All this crap makes me think I should just stay single for-ev-er. I feel like all I'm finding are scumbags the past few years. What happened? Did all the good ones get married and I'm left with this garbage? I dont know how anyone finds dating to be fun. Fun if you like disappointment after disappointment, sure.
carrotgirl Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I dont know how anyone finds dating to be fun. Fun if you like disappointment after disappointment, sure. Aria! I can't stand dating! I don't even like to call it dating. It's so American and so lacking in meaning. If we're together, then we're together. If we're not, then we're not. What's with this dating thing? I don't really see the point. And you may as well know, I had me some of that nice, meaningless sex this weekend. Yes I did. I worked out some aggression, got some exercise, had some laughs. And nothing is changed. GD is still a much better lover and kisser and cuddler and all things a Carrot could want EXCEPT for the nasty little beeyotch that randomly takes up residence in GD's body! Come on over my way and we'll go on a Valentine's date. Or I can come over your way. No sex though. I'm saving myself for St. Patrick. Carrot
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 Come on over my way and we'll go on a Valentine's date. Or I can come over your way. No sex though. I'm saving myself for St. Patrick. Carrot Alright but then i hope you dont mind if i go out trolling for a lover after you leave, cuz i need to get myself laid on valentines day! hahaha
Teacher's Pet Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Alright but then i hope you dont mind if i go out trolling for a lover after you leave, cuz i need to get myself laid on valentines day! hahaha AW... Just to warn you, I promised myself (actually YOU made me promise you this) that I won't let you do that to yourself again, well at least not with you-know-who I can't believe you said "i need to get myself laid".. that's so.... un-youish. Actually, that's more me-ish. And for what it's worth, even though we're just good friends, I love you and would be honored to be a platonic Valentine to you. Love isn't limited to romance, ya know! I think you need a real "girls night out", so Carrotgirl should head up to NJ and take you out. Just please.... no random unprotected sex in bathrooms.... who do you think you are, MY ex? I'll still meet ya for karaoke afterwards. LOL -TP actually thinks AW needs to get HER initials capitalized
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 AW... Just to warn you, I promised myself (actually YOU made me promise you this) that I won't let you do that to yourself again, well at least not with you-know-who I can't believe you said "i need to get myself laid".. that's so.... un-youish. Actually, that's more me-ish. And for what it's worth, even though we're just good friends, I love you and would be honored to be a platonic Valentine to you. Love isn't limited to romance, ya know! I think you need a real "girls night out", so Carrotgirl should head up to NJ and take you out. Just please.... no random unprotected sex in bathrooms.... who do you think you are, MY ex? I'll still meet ya for karaoke afterwards. LOL -TP actually thinks AW needs to get HER initials capitalized Sometimes people say things in gest to make others laugh. I dont really need to get laid. I would like to find a guy i'm interested in enough to make out with though. I was hoping to make out this weekend, but as luck would have it, that didnt' work out. Probably best that it didn't considering what I'm learning slowly. I'll still have to deal with him at some point if he calls. As for trivia, who knows, they are calling for snow, so I make no promises on being there since it's so far from me afterwards to get home.
carrotgirl Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I dont really need to get laid.... As for trivia, who knows, they are calling for snow, so I make no promises on being there since it's so far from me afterwards to get home. No, no one really NEEDS to get laid. But we all seem to like it quite a bit! And did you just give the all time weenie excuse for not accepting a date? The weather? Couldn't you put your tatas out there and say, No thanks, maybe next time? Shame! Carrot
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 No, no one really NEEDS to get laid. But we all seem to like it quite a bit! And did you just give the all time weenie excuse for not accepting a date? The weather? Couldn't you put your tatas out there and say, No thanks, maybe next time? Shame! Carrot There are no date offers extended to me, so no, didn't give any excuses. I go to trivia every week at a bar up towards work that i live about 45 miles from. Only date i've had since my ex last may was the one this thread is about lol.
D-Lish Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Aria.... what is a go-go type? Like a really young slutty dressing club girl???? And he wants that at 50? Pffft.... you want and deserve more than that. I think what happened is that he met a super decent chick and then went AWOL because he couldn't handle the pressure he most likely put on himself. Dating sucks a bit of ass.... I concede. You have to sift through a lot of trolls before finding the right guy. I think guys go through this too.... because women can be messed too. I don't give two craps about valentine's day (see- i don't even capitalize it).... It's just another day. You don't need a date. Hun- if finding a booty call is what you seek- you can find it- I've seen your pic (from a mutual friend hehe). But I have to tell you that after doing the booty call scene for a bit after my divorce..... it never feels good. Forget "50 go-go man". Who does he think he is...Hugh Hefner? ew. Wait it out and love yourself. (yeah, even if it means you have to make love to yourself). I do that, and I still respect myself the next day. Forget 50. You are obviously way to classy and cool for him. Do you have batteries? lol batteries take care of tension (sex) cats and dogs take care of being lonely (companionship) Loveshack helps you connect (intimacy). Your bases are covered! Throw in some chocolate and you have yourself a relationship!! lol.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 Aria.... what is a go-go type? Like a really young slutty dressing club girl???? And he wants that at 50? Pffft.... you want and deserve more than that. I think what happened is that he met a super decent chick and then went AWOL because he couldn't handle the pressure he most likely put on himself. Dating sucks a bit of ass.... I concede. You have to sift through a lot of trolls before finding the right guy. I think guys go through this too.... because women can be messed too. I don't give two craps about valentine's day (see- i don't even capitalize it).... It's just another day. You don't need a date. Hun- if finding a booty call is what you seek- you can find it- I've seen your pic (from a mutual friend hehe). But I have to tell you that after doing the booty call scene for a bit after my divorce..... it never feels good. Forget "50 go-go man". Who does he think he is...Hugh Hefner? ew. Wait it out and love yourself. (yeah, even if it means you have to make love to yourself). I do that, and I still respect myself the next day. Forget 50. You are obviously way to classy and cool for him. Do you have batteries? lol batteries take care of tension (sex) cats and dogs take care of being lonely (companionship) Loveshack helps you connect (intimacy). Your bases are covered! Throw in some chocolate and you have yourself a relationship!! lol. If I were a guy I'd be chasing you down :-) It's entirely possible that he saw me for who I am and got scared, my last ex did that on a regular basis. He's now with someone I suppose he feels more deserving of, as he seemed to think he deserved less than what I gave. It's just insane when you know how many good people are sitting around waiting, so to speak. Surely there must be men in the same boat, but I dont know where they are hiding.
underpants Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Oh Aria, I am the ying to the yang or vice versa? I just did this to someone and feel rather low about myself. I am sick (ahem)...wiggling out of dates and avoiding calls. I just don't know what to say and this week is too scary for me on too many levels. So I am hiding. ...and he is an older guy. I just have some serious reservations that (to be honest) mostly reside in myself. So, for what it is worth. There is a younger one giving an older one the same treatement someplace else. Dating Sucks. ---edit. I did lie about being sick way before though. Not that it makes it any better.
carrotgirl Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 Oh Aria, I am the ying to the yang or vice versa? I just did this to someone and feel rather low about myself. I am sick (ahem)...wiggling out of dates and avoiding calls. I just don't know what to say and this week is too scary for me on too many levels. So I am hiding. ...and he is an older guy. I just have some serious reservations that (to be honest) mostly reside in myself. So, for what it is worth. There is a younger one giving an older one the same treatement someplace else. Dating Sucks. ---edit. I did lie about being sick way before though. Not that it makes it any better. Unders, we really have to talk!
D-Lish Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 If I were a guy I'd be chasing you down :-) It's entirely possible that he saw me for who I am and got scared, my last ex did that on a regular basis. He's now with someone I suppose he feels more deserving of, as he seemed to think he deserved less than what I gave. It's just insane when you know how many good people are sitting around waiting, so to speak. Surely there must be men in the same boat, but I dont know where they are hiding. Meh, Aria- If I was a guy, I would be your man. haha. Your last ex saw the wonderful person you were (are) and chose a different path because he had cultural obligations. Again- not your problem. There are good people sitting out there... but that doesn't mean you'll have chemistry with them. You are still young and beautiful... wait~ please don't settle. A guy at 50..... is he going to want to have kids and raise a family???? Probably not. And if he did even get to that kids part, if he's a commitment phobe- you'd have ended up a single mom. I'm coming to Manhatten soon. close?
Teacher's Pet Posted February 12, 2008 Posted February 12, 2008 I'm coming to Manhatten soon. close? Ahem. Party? -TP about damned time!
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 12, 2008 Author Posted February 12, 2008 I'm coming to Manhatten soon. close? Yes ma'am. 1 hour outside of it by train....
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 The guy who stood me up Saturday sent email to all the accounts he has for me AND my cell phone sending a picture of roses and saying happy valentines day and asking me if I have plans for dinner tonight. Classic. Just classic.
blind_otter Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 The guy who stood me up Saturday sent email to all the accounts he has for me AND my cell phone sending a picture of roses and saying happy valentines day and asking me if I have plans for dinner tonight. Classic. Just classic. I would definately respond! "Yes. I am going to eat your soul."
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 14, 2008 Author Posted February 14, 2008 I would definately respond! "Yes. I am going to eat your soul." My friends are telling me to accept, and then stand him up. I admit, it would be funny, and on valentines day to boot - double ouch! But, I'm not the vengeful sort... Too bad cuz it is a golden opportunity LOL I am also sick with a sinnus infection, so I dont really want to be going out...
peace_pipe Posted February 14, 2008 Posted February 14, 2008 It just sucks when you meet someone that you like and see them as having dating potential and it turns out they suck. This has been my problem for years!
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