oppath Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Yes. I have had these plans for over 1 month. Instead of not seeing him this weekend, I thought maybe he'd like to come along. So, I asked him... Regardless, he accepted, and should have had the decency to cancel if he wasn't going to be coming. Even if I'm just a friend, which at this point is what I am as we just started to get to know eachother, it's common courtesy. On the East Coast maybe. In Southern California no one cancels. They just refrain from showing up. Poor showing on his behalf. It's a dealbreaker for me. It's a dealbreaker for me if I agree to meet a woman on a Wednesday but we haven't confirmed a time, and I call Monday and Tuesday and she doesn't call back until Wednesday saying "we still on?" All he had to do was text and say "not coming" and you would not have cared.
Always Wrong Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Yes. I have had these plans for over 1 month. Instead of not seeing him this weekend, I thought maybe he'd like to come along. So, I asked him... Regardless, he accepted, and should have had the decency to cancel if he wasn't going to be coming. Even if I'm just a friend, which at this point is what I am as we just started to get to know eachother, it's common courtesy. You're right, he should have called. It would only be common courtesy to let you know he wasn't coming, so you wouldn't wait for him unnecessarily. I hope he comes around and sweeps you off your feet with a good explanation. That would be a happy ending. I prefer happy endings. But this isn't hollywood is it.
Art_Critic Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Regardless, he accepted, and should have had the decency to cancel if he wasn't going to be coming. Even if I'm just a friend, which at this point is what I am as we just started to get to know eachother, it's common courtesy. So true.. he also knew he did something not cool when he sent the apology text..
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 You're right, he should have called. It would only be common courtesy to let you know he wasn't coming, so you wouldn't wait for him unnecessarily. I hope he comes around and sweeps you off your feet with a good explanation. That would be a happy ending. I prefer happy endings. But this isn't hollywood is it. No it's not hollywood. But I often find myself wishing for the movie ending just the same... 830 now, still no word from him. It's gonna be a long week. lol
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 You'd think that by his age he'd have learned some decency! Hey Aria- I'd expect some of that behaviour from some of the youngin's I date.... not from a 50 year old man. When you have plans with someone and you can't make it, you call and cancel. Perhaps it was a bit of cold feet, he awoke this morning and felt like an ass.... I am glad you stood up for yourself with the "bad excuse" text. I'd keep it at that. If you don't hear back from him, move on to the next. I'd be livid if someone did that to me.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 You'd think that by his age he'd have learned some decency! Hey Aria- I'd expect some of that behaviour from some of the youngin's I date.... not from a 50 year old man. When you have plans with someone and you can't make it, you call and cancel. Perhaps it was a bit of cold feet, he awoke this morning and felt like an ass.... I am glad you stood up for yourself with the "bad excuse" text. I'd keep it at that. If you don't hear back from him, move on to the next. I'd be livid if someone did that to me. Yeah I plan on leaving it as it stands. He knows why he's not hearing from me. If he cares to make it better, he knows my phone number. I can't be all contacting him a million times I'm pretty sure he's old enough to know he f'ed up.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Anyone else have any insight on the situation? I have no updates as far as contact, but will definitely let ya'll know if that occurs.
Pyro Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Anyone else have any insight on the situation? I have no updates as far as contact, but will definitely let ya'll know if that occurs. Don't wait around for him. Move on with your life, but if calls back, answer the call and hear him out, but if he tries to beat around the bush or avoid the topic all together, then say bye and hang up. Rejection can suck. I use to let it bother me greatly, but I realized that in the end, it is their loss.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Don't wait around for him. Move on with your life, but if calls back, answer the call and hear him out, but if he tries to beat around the bush or avoid the topic all together, then say bye and hang up. Rejection can suck. I use to let it bother me greatly, but I realized that in the end, it is their loss. This is exactly what I've been planning on doing. I wasn't waiting around either way, considering we have a significant obstacle in the age to begin with lol. However, I was willing to see what happened. I certainly am not adverse to meeting others. I just can't find them currently ;-) I do let it bother me more than it should. I had a guy last night that I saw where I went dancing, and I have known him since I was 21. First thing he did was pick up my left hand and check for a ring. Then he proceeded to tell me how every guy that has had me is a moron. Hopefully there are men out there that will feel that way about me, and not let me go.
Pyro Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 This is exactly what I've been planning on doing. I wasn't waiting around either way, considering we have a significant obstacle in the age to begin with lol. However, I was willing to see what happened. I certainly am not adverse to meeting others. I just can't find them currently ;-) I do let it bother me more than it should. I had a guy last night that I saw where I went dancing, and I have known him since I was 21. First thing he did was pick up my left hand and check for a ring. Then he proceeded to tell me how every guy that has had me is a moron. Hopefully there are men out there that will feel that way about me, and not let me go. Just keep putting yourself out there. It will happen when it happens. I know......thats terrible advice.
Always Wrong Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Just keep putting yourself out there. It will happen when it happens. I know......thats terrible advice. That's not bad advice. Simplicity at its' finest... short, sweet, and very true.
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 That's not bad advice. Simplicity at its' finest... short, sweet, and very true. I still think that the statement "it happens when you are not looking for it" holds a lot of water. It will happen AW, it will happen for all of us.
carrotgirl Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 if calls back, answer the call and hear him out, but if he tries to beat around the bush or avoid the topic all together, then say bye and hang up. Oh HELL NO. He stood you up. Plain and simple. He knew it. He didn't just flake. This was purposeful. He was unable to call and break a date? What? Was he in a terrible accident that left his fingers, tongue, nose and toes in casts? No. He gets nothing more of our Aria. Carrot
Pyro Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Oh HELL NO. He stood you up. Plain and simple. He knew it. He didn't just flake. This was purposeful. He was unable to call and break a date? What? Was he in a terrible accident that left his fingers, tongue, nose and toes in casts? No. He gets nothing more of our Aria. Carrot I suggested the idea just so Aria knows why he did what he did.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Oh HELL NO. He stood you up. Plain and simple. He knew it. He didn't just flake. This was purposeful. He was unable to call and break a date? What? Was he in a terrible accident that left his fingers, tongue, nose and toes in casts? No. He gets nothing more of our Aria. Carrot That's my girl :-) Nice to see you on my thread carrot :-) I thought this same thing. Not like anything was preventing him from calling. Nothing was broken, as evidenced by a text in the AM. Maybe this is why he's single at 50. That remained to be seen. However yeah, it's pretty obvious that I shouldn't care. I just hate that I do. I'll get over it, I'm sure. I just hate when people end up sucking, and not in a good way. :-)
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 I still think that the statement "it happens when you are not looking for it" holds a lot of water. It will happen AW, it will happen for all of us. I've never met anyone while looking either, so I agree with this. I wasn't looking when my last few came along. I dont think I was looking this time either but...lol.
Lyssa Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 No courtesy at all! No bloody decency to call and let you know that he couldn't make it! Ggggrrr... It comes when you least expect it and this is clearly not the one! It really gets to me when someone doesn't even have the decency to text or call to break a date!!
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Well you have too much to offer to NOT find that special someone. I guess immaturity doesn't always coincide with age and experience. If he got cold feet, he's missing out.... and you're right- that is probably why he is single at his age! I go through periods when I feel like I am on a mission to find mr. right... that is usually when I end up dating all the mr. wrongs. I guess it's because one gets too eager. Sometimes I feel like I have no right to come on here and vent about my bad experiences with guys I shouldn't have chosen to date in the first place. It just sucks when you meet someone that you like and see them as having dating potential and it turns out they suck.
carrotgirl Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I suggested the idea just so Aria knows why he did what he did. Reason: He has a penis the size of a gherkin. Carrot
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 It just sucks when you meet someone that you like and see them as having dating potential and it turns out they suck. I said this almost verbatim to someone today. That's how I feel. It's like, I know I have certain standards and sometimes I find it's hard to wait for someone who remotely fits (and no, they aren't insane standards - ask TP about my ex lol). To be honest, I wouldn't mind just finding someone I could fool around with for a bit, just to kill some time while looking for the right one, but I know I dont have the mindset to be that way. Unfortunately.
Teacher's Pet Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I'll get over it, I'm sure. I just hate when people end up sucking, and not in a good way. :-) We've both had our share of that, AW. My ex couldn't even get the sucking part right. -TP still misses that damned dog (inside joke lol)
Teacher's Pet Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Reason: He has a penis the size of a gherkin. Hey, I have NEVER stood a woman up! Err... this wasn't about me, right? -TP oops
Teacher's Pet Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I said this almost verbatim to someone today. That's how I feel. It's like, I know I have certain standards and sometimes I find it's hard to wait for someone who remotely fits (and no, they aren't insane standards - ask TP about my ex lol). Why? What was wrong with him? *starts humming "Short People"* To be honest, I wouldn't mind just finding someone I could fool around with for a bit, just to kill some time while looking for the right one, but I know I dont have the mindset to be that way. Unfortunately. I don't think you are the "fool around with for just a little bit" type. At least from a guy's point of view. You are, as they say, a keeper. Besides, who could get a gander at dem hooters and walk away? I mean, really! I love ya to pieces, AW..... only a matter of time before the right guy comes along and says it, too. Until then, we have Tuesday night trivia (you beat us by 4 last week!), and occasional Saturday night karaoke. Next time you come out, you'll finally meet K, see how obnoxious I am around her, and realize you might be better off WITHOUT a man. -TP yes, I DO call it "giggity giggity time"
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Next time you come out, you'll finally meet K, see how obnoxious I am around her, and realize you might be better off WITHOUT a man. Um, is this implying that you aren't obnoxious without her? If so, I missed that memo.... OOOOOOOOOOOOH SNAP! In other news. I got an email first thing this morning from the stander upper. He claims to have gotten sick saturday (to which i replied in the future you should contact your friends/dates/whomever if you fall ill) and also says that yesterday he received news that a cousin passed away (i have no reason to think anyone would make that up but i suppose you never know) and he wasn't in a talking mood. At least he did send an explanation, and I did send my 2 cents, after offering condolences.
Always Wrong Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 You're going to let him off the hook that easy? hmmmmmmm, I suppose. Oh boy... is he ever in trouble if he fails to call again! I wonder how many cousins he has?
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