thatdude Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Hey guys, I'm crazy about this girl at work and thought I'd share my short story to see if folks on this site have any advice or suggestions! I'm a single guy, late 20's. I randomly met this girl about 2 weeks ago. From the moment I saw her I felt like we'd make an awesome couple. We're the same age group, same education, family backgrounds, same passion for our product, look great together and we share some common interests! We work close enough in the same building so we can run into each other, but we're in different teams so we can maintain distance when necessary. Anyway, we met for lunch once, and emailed and chatted online a few times, but it's always been work related talk. I have a HUGE crush on her but don't know how to tell her! I get weak and nervous when talking to her and either end up saying something incredibly stupid or discuss work. She always replies my email and IMs, and has said that she'd love to talk more. However, it's almost always me who initiates a conversation. I mean, she's probably IM'd me ONCE, and I've done it 3-4 times. So I feel kinda weird about pestering her....... I feel like I'm in a rut now. If I don't initiate a conversation I probably won't speak to her for a long time. Basically I feel like I desperately want to talk to her, but she doesn't necessarily need to talk to me!!! Friends say I should just ask out for lunch or dinner but I'm afraid it'll sound "too direct, too soon". Can anyone PLEASE tell me a good way out of this situation? Like I said, we have common work interests, and I can easily strike up a conversation about work, but where do I take it from there? and how do I let her know that I'm not just picking her brains about work and I really really really like her?? I guess it's weird to meet people in a work environment (as opposed to a dating context) because you don't know if they're just your work buddies or are looking for a relationship. Thanks all!! -Crazy@Work
Winfield Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 (edited) You could perhaps start the conversation about work, then digress to something which most folks have a common interest in, like music, film, etc - that way, you can gauge if you have common interests outside of work before asking her if she'd like to go for a coffee / grab lunch, etc... One thing though - when you strike up a conversation such as this, do it in person as opposed to e-mail / IM! Nerve wracking? Of course it is - but who said asking someone out was easy? Good luck! Edited February 10, 2008 by Winfield
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