russian2 Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 there is this girl i work with and she has never had a boyfriend before. im not sure if she is into me and dont want to jump right in and ask her out. anything i should be looking for?
Lizzie60 Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 there is this girl i work with and she has never had a boyfriend before. im not sure if she is into me and dont want to jump right in and ask her out. anything i should be looking for? You should be looking for a piece of paper to write her phone number down...
Author russian2 Posted February 10, 2008 Author Posted February 10, 2008 i already got her number and she has mine, but it was more of a friendly exchange of numbers. anything else?
Lizzie60 Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 i already got her number and she has mine, but it was more of a friendly exchange of numbers. anything else? go with your gut feeling.. you'll get a feeling if she likes you or not.. don't beat around the bush.. ask her out.. simple.
Author russian2 Posted February 10, 2008 Author Posted February 10, 2008 i dont have a gut feeling on this im just not sure what to do lol. do you know of any signs she might give off that she might like me?
OrangeSnack Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Well to find out if she is interested in you, you have to start a conversation with her. And like lizzie said, go with your gut feeling. If you feel that your conversation is going well, simply break out of your shell and ask her out.
Lucasarts Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 ok. . . so you honestly don't have much experience with the opposite sex either right? It's ok if you don't, that's why you're here. But to get straight to the point, there are certain things to look for when you are around this girl. Here are a few signs/gestures that are positive reactions to you: 1. Eye contact. Whenever you look at her or talk to her (you SHOULD be looking at her when talking to her. . .but some people just don't know how to do that) you should feel the intensity of the contact. Look to see if her pupils dilate (get bigger when looking at you) as this usually indicates that she likes you (a good way to test it is to see if her pupils get smaller when looking/talking to someone else. . .hard to observe, but if they do, then you know for sure she really likes you). Also, with eye contact, the length that you hold each others gaze is a good indicator (if she smiles at you when you look at each other, big plus, as you should be smiling back to show your interest in her). 2. Body language. The way a woman opens up her body to you is a great way to figure out if someone likes you or not. Learning to read someone's body language in general is a good thing because this indicates their level of comfort and ease with you. There are many different gestures and movements of the body that are positive (as well as negative) but I'll just name a few of these that will fit your situation: a). Openness: Look to see if her hands are crossed when talking to you, this means she's closed up. . . as you keep talking notice if she changes to a different pose, if she does, this means that she's warming up to you and is more comfortable talking/being around you. Also look to see if her legs are crossed or not (if her feet are pidgeon-toed toward you, that shows interest) b) Head tilt: If her head is slightly tilted and sort of in a docile state, it means she's humbling herself to you. . .which is good because she doesn't feel the need to rise above you and push you away. c) The Lean: If she leans toward you for any reason, that means she likes you enough to get closer. She is interested in what your saying/doing so she wants to get as close as possible to understand/be involved with you. If she leans away. . .she's not happy with you and doesn't want to be near you (she in fact probably wants to get as far away as possible). d) Touching: Obvious! if a girl touches you, she likes you a lot. She feels the impulse to touch you (and maybe more! ;D) and is comfortable with you. The more touching that is involved, the better, as this raises the comfort level and may even lead to something more. e) Fiddling around: If she is fiddling around with anything in her hands, her jewelry, her hair, her clothes, ANYTHING. . . it means shes a little nervous to be in your presence. . .shes sorta of preening, sorta anticipating what to say next and can't help control her self. This is good because it shows that she can't conceal her feelings entirely to you. 3. Conversation. Who does the majority of the talking? If its you. . .then you better learn to shut up and let her take over b/c you can't keep talking about yourself (girls like to talk about themselves and have guys listen. . .it makes them feel more important and special; keep asking questions b/c if you're interested in them, they are more interested in you.) Also, if they initiate a lot of conversations with you (and vice versa) thats good, because you guys are on good speaking terms. . . long and short convos aren't really important as long as they don't end badly or create tension (awkward tension that is). Communication is fundamental for a working relationship between people. Also, if she's laughing at your jokes/remarks that aren't funny. . .its because she thinks everything you say is probably cute or meaningful. . .plus she just really likes you a lot. 4. Names. If she says your name a lot when addressing you or talking to you in general, it means that she knows who you are and maybe she thinks of you a lot more than some others. It's one thing to say "hi" but its another to say " hi, (your name)" this means it more direct, its only for you, and you're the one she is talking to, no one else. It also establishes your importance in the conversation. 5. Flirting. Is there flirting going on? look at the body language part and observe and reciprocate what she does back to you. The more teasing, touching, and laughing that happens, the better because when those three things happen. . .its pretty obvious there is an attraction there. Thats just a few things I can offer for you in your situation, as you now know some things to look for. If any of these do or do not occur, just come back here and let us know. . .we'll help out the best we can; remember these are not foolproof methods of reading a girl. . .it takes personal judgment as well, but these signs do help in figuring out if its positive or negative. Good Luck!
Author russian2 Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 ^dam nice post. ill check all these out next time i work
Author russian2 Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 ok so i texted her today asking if she would want to go to the movies thursday or friday and she said she couldnt because she would be out of town for the weekend. im guessing if she isnt at work that she was telling the truth and she will be out of town. what do you all think?
Replicant Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 ok so i texted her today asking if she would want to go to the movies thursday or friday and she said she couldnt because she would be out of town for the weekend. im guessing if she isnt at work that she was telling the truth and she will be out of town. what do you all think? A text!? You texted her out? That's something one might do if a call would not reach her, and you are already exclusively dating. To physically walk up to her with confidence and ask her out. Shows more of an interest, and makes a better impression. Even if she turned you down you had the nuts to do so. By now, you should have already had a basic idea or gut feeling if she's flirting or interested without having to confirm it with the list of human behavior above. The fact she turned the date down is one thing, BUT she never asked for a alternate or follow up call/date. Doesn't show the greatest amount interest.
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