Krillin Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 So I met what seemed to be a pretty cool girl last weekend...she gave me her number and said to call. So I called a few days later said I had a lot of fun and would like to meet up again. She said she would like that so I told her I would call her in a few days to finalize the plans. She thanked me for calling and we said goodnight. I make some plans to go out with friends and figured it would be a good situation to try and get together with this girl again. That night I got home pretty late and instead of calling I sent a quick text asking how she was and told her what we were planning for friday. No response... I figured maybe she was sleeping so I didn't really think anything of it. So I call her again yesterday to talk about the plans. I get her voicemail and basically tell her that we are going to be out and it would be cool to meet up otherwise perhaps we can get together for lunch or coffee this weekend. No response last night...or today.... So I guess I am confused...if you aren't interested 1) don't give your number out 2) if you insist on giving it out when the person you give it to calls and you aren't interested just say so.. I guess she could be busy but I don't know... Should I try to contact her again? Just forget about it?
directx Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 I would forget about it Krillin. You barely know her, (because she didn't really give you the chance it seems) so you do not know how she 'dates'. Maybe she just jumps from one guy to another on a whim, choosing who she thinks is best. Or maybe she just got real busy. Or maybe a controlling ex-boyfriend came back into the picture and she is too weak to end it. I think your best bet is to politely respond if she does, but move on. And don't take it personal, because you have nothing but assumption to go on.
Author Krillin Posted February 10, 2008 Author Posted February 10, 2008 Thanks directx...I know it really is silly to take it so personally. You are right she barely knows me and hasn't really given me a chance. But for some strange reason hehe...I still feel bad about it. Oh well obviously a person like this isn't worth worrying about. Thanks again.
directx Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Hey, its ok to take it personally. I mean, you are doing something personal with her. It's just silly to take it real far in your head. Give her a little benefit of the doubt. Because if she responds back, you might be throwing away a good thing. Of course, at the same time don't be a door mat. What I predict might happen is this: you run into her going out one night. If that happens, use the opportunity to play it real cool and with class. Not being mad, just maybe something like 'Hey, I was a little disappointed in not hearing from you. I hope nothing happened.' and then politely excuse yourself. She'll be like 'Man, that guy is pretty cool and mature.' And if she has a hot friend, she might see that too. (sorry, i have a good imagination) Good luck!
norajane Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 What I predict might happen is this: you run into her going out one night. If that happens, use the opportunity to play it real cool and with class. Not being mad, just maybe something like 'Hey, I was a little disappointed in not hearing from you. I hope nothing happened.' and then politely excuse yourself. She'll be like 'Man, that guy is pretty cool and mature.' And if she has a hot friend, she might see that too. (sorry, i have a good imagination) Good luck! If you run into her again, I'd recommend that you smile, be friendly, tell her she looks wonderful, and say nothing about her not responding to your text and call! Don't say anything about being disappointed! Leave her wondering! Then, after you politely excuse yourself, she'll be kicking herself for not calling you back and missing her chance with a good guy who tells her she looks great...
directx Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 If you run into her again, I'd recommend that you smile, be friendly, tell her she looks wonderful, and say nothing about her not responding to your text and call! Don't say anything about being disappointed! Leave her wondering! Then, after you politely excuse yourself, she'll be kicking herself for not calling you back and missing her chance with a good guy who tells her she looks great... Yeah, I like that move better! Be prepared to do that!
Author Krillin Posted February 10, 2008 Author Posted February 10, 2008 Sounds good guys. Though, I doubt I will ever see her out again. This is such a huge area with so many different places. I never see the same people twice. It's funny though because I usually don't ask for numbers in bars/clubs... (Perhaps it's closed minded on my part but I just don't think the quality is there...heh and based on this experience it further proves this theory) With this girl, when she was leaving she looked at me like "aren't you going to ask for my number???" I just said it was nice meeting you and goodnight, she stood there for a few more seconds and said "well here is my number, give me a call tomorrow." Oh well it's all part of the experience I guess. But seriously, it would have been easier for her to just walk away, right? Maybe it's an ego-boost thing...who knows... Advice for the ladies: if you aren't interested don't give out your number! OR if giving numbers somehow makes you feel good, give a fake one! Simple.
OrangeSnack Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 I would agree with directx and jane. Forget about it, for now. If you do bump into her again smile and dont bring up the subject of missed calls. If she's smart enough, she will start wondering. Good luck
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