Lucky555 Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 The guy from the past is back. I still have feelings I am scared of being hurt again by him. we didn't get too serious before. He wont commit due to not living on his own and i know this. I am a full time student therefore i don't live on my own. he is keeping this casual but trying to flirt in conversation he has not made contact in a week in a half. I have not either. he contacts me not often and i am sick of this However, i think he has good values in his life and great goals. The way he is with me is not good enough because i need him to stand up and say lets do something. However, i think he doesn't because i don't work but i have money to do things. So because i am scared of being hurt again by him i am making sure this is where he wants to be. I am keeping things casual myself, i have been wanting to contact him in the spur of the moment when i think i found something he would laugh at but i have controlled these impulses because i have to be realistic with this situation. so i posted about this same guy before and how he used manipulation and i found out he had thought when i talked to him i sounded like i had an attitude and its online so yeah i cleared that up and since then its been good. Now what do i do? if he were just any other guy that i had dated i would be long gone! In some ways i don't want to get involved because I think he might change his mind and i would be devastated. However, he has not been with anyone else since he met me a 1.5 years ago, in which five of those months we didn't speak. i find myself trying to push him away because he can't say "i want to be with you" but i know its hard to just put your feelings out there because what if that person does not feel the same way? So now do i just move on then if he initiates contact take if from there? He has not been putting himself out there because of the miscommunication and now he knows Now that i don't mean to sound mean. He does not feel comfortable using the phone and i know this hes awkward. Before with this post people said leave him don't contact which i have not contacted him for days and i am holding out due to the advise. But the situation has changed with him thinking i was being mean now where do i go from here? Let him contact me? this is the only thing i can come up with. I can't contact him due to the fact that i think he needs to make a decision of what he wants..
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