serendip Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Last night the ex text me to ask how I was doing...I don't know why I didn't respond of course we aren't really on good terms...as you can see by this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t138420/ Today is my B-day and what would have been our 2nd anniversary...but she made no mention of that in her text. I didn't contact her for her B-day 2 weeks ago...so I' not sure why she contacted me last night. We haven't contacted each other since the 15th....she kind of left me hanging in the middle of our text conversation. Anyway I won't respond to her...not today anyway. I'm just going to enjoy today with some good friends
amaysngrace Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! She probably thinks you're out having the time of your life or planning to. Good....let her....
s_n_d Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Happy birthday!! Enjoy your day and dont let her ruin it for you.
kymberann Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Wow, good for you! She is t esting the waters, seeing if she can draw you back in! You just enjoy your birthday! Best Kim
Author serendip Posted February 10, 2008 Author Posted February 10, 2008 Thanks everyone I haven't responded to her had a fantastic birthday celebration with good friends should I even bother responding...something like 'I'm doing well...busy enjoying my b-day weekend'
PinkRibbon Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Happy belated Birthday! I hope you had a really good one. Did you ever respond to the text?
vivrantflo Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 should I even bother responding...something like 'I'm doing well...busy enjoying my b-day weekend' No, don't. You've been doing well.. just stick to it, and ignore her.
Always Wrong Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Thanks everyone I haven't responded to her had a fantastic birthday celebration with good friends should I even bother responding...something like 'I'm doing well...busy enjoying my b-day weekend' Use "The Force" serendip! Don't give her the satisfaction of thinking you would come back if she wanted you to. And if you respond, that's exactly what she would think.
Author serendip Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Part of me sort of wants to respond but then I think what is the point...what do I hope to gain from it I don't know
Author serendip Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 9 mths since the break up Last communication was the 15th of jan I'm not sure if there is a point to responding
Author serendip Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 So I ended up responding last night I just text... "I am doing well...spent weekend celebrating my birthday" She instantly texted back "Happy Birthday" I text back "Thanks" It didn't make me feel worse or better
Always Wrong Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 So I ended up responding last night I just text... "I am doing well...spent weekend celebrating my birthday" She instantly texted back "Happy Birthday" I text back "Thanks" It didn't make me feel worse or better That's a good thing! The not feeling worse or better part. Sounds to me like she's attempting to leave the door open. Are you going for it? She'll probably break your heart again if you do. Then you'll be back at square one.
Author serendip Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 That's a good thing! The not feeling worse or better part. Sounds to me like she's attempting to leave the door open. Are you going for it? She'll probably break your heart again if you do. Then you'll be back at square one. Neil Young said it best But only love can break your heart Try to be sure right from the start Yes only love can break your heart What if your world should fall apart? I'm not sure I love her anymore b/c real love needs to be nurtured for it to endure...so it would be hard for her to break my heart again. As far as her trying to leave a door open...I don't think so. To tell you the truth I don't know what she is doing? All I know is that I responded and it didn't cost me or provide me with anything emotionally. I just want to let the negativity go... Was thinking of sending her this parable One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, cheating, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith." The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
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