Issues & tissues Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 My ex came round the other night to pick up more of his stuff. Rummaging at the back of the wardrobe, he came across a box which had not been opened in years (not since we had moved into our new apartment 7 years ago). Inside the box was stuff that had at one time or another been a regular part of our lives - a hockey stick, a raggy t-shirt with his school's logo on it, a scruffy leather address book, etc. At the bottom of the box was a jacket carefully folded away. Worn in places and very dated, this jacket was not like any other. This was the jacket he wore on the day we met and on consequent dates. He loved that jacket - we both did. I used to think how handsome he looked in that jacket. He put it on. He smiled and said "Remember this?". Memories came flooding back -- the little smokey cafe where we would drink Czech beer and giggle at the silly things he would say, the parks where we walked hand in hand through the long lush green grass, the hustling bustling train station where I would greet him at the end of the working day and where he would pick me up in his arms and kiss my cheek --the tears began to roll. His smile soon turned into a frown. He looked annoyed. He barked something at me, ripped off the jacket and gestured for me to throw it in the bin. For a fleeting moment, I had a final glimpse of the man who I had fallen in love with all those years ago. But like coulds on a sunny windy day, he was swept away as quickly as he had appeared. The mind is a dangerous thing.
Always Wrong Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Issues... you and Sara seem to be doing the same thing. You are stuck in the barganing phase of Coping with Grief and Loss. Noone has to die for you to experience the same type of healing sequence, and you are stuck in the barganing phase. Read this single page link to the University of Iowa Counseling service. It might help to understand the process. AW http://www.uiowa.edu/~ucs/griefloss.html
Author Issues & tissues Posted February 9, 2008 Author Posted February 9, 2008 Thank you for posting this article. It was very helpful to understand the processes associated with loss and to know that what I am feeling is just part of the long road to recovery.
Always Wrong Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Thank you for posting this article. It was very helpful to understand the processes associated with loss and to know that what I am feeling is just part of the long road to recovery. It's my pleasure Issues.
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