LIVEWIRE Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 Hi guys. Fairly new to the forum.. I have been reading a lot on No Contact. To me doing NC has always been a very natural reaction to being dumped or breaking up with someone. Maybe I am one of the lucky ones who can accept that over means over. I can say however, that being in LIMBO is not fun..and it just seems that some of the posters I have seen have simply been seeing their breakup as being in limbo. All that means is that YOU (not your ex) are in a holding pattern. You are in suspended animation..waiting for the next ....SOMETHING to happen. Why would it? You are broken up. Your ex has likely already began the process of moving on. If they are not calling you it's because they have accepted the breakup as final. I know this is pretty common sense, but it seems like a hard concept to grasp when you in the midst of it. I urge whoever is still in this 'limbo" state..to try to accept your breakup as final, otherwise you are holding YOURSELF back unneccessarily. LW
Robert7x Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 I guess a lot of people that are here were shocked by the break-up and didn't know what hit them. They are still in the denial stage and keep thinking that all this is a dream that they are going to wake up from very soon. I agree with you, but when you get hit by those words of break-up it just makes you feel like your whole life is about to end. Everybody goes through different stages and everybody feels different about each break-up. So that's why for some people it's easy to move on and for some isn't. Once you realize that it's really over and you decide to move on, that's when you're healing begins.
mistie03 Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 I have been in NC with my ex for over 3 weeks. I cried at first, but now I am accepting it. He is not calling me and I am not calling him. We had a conversation, that for me, was the final nail in the coffin of our relationship. The last conversation over 3 weeks ago lasted about 30 seconds. He was just telling me that he was coming to get something that belonged to him out of my garage. He said that he would only be 5 minutes. He didn't approach the house, and I didn't go out there. I knew that this was going to happen. It wasn't sudden. I could tell that he was pulling away. So, I pulled away too. It's done. I accept it. I wasn't getting what I wanted out of the relationship. It's for the best.
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