kotan Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 (edited) I have been dating this girl for a few months and she says she loves me but just 2 days ago she has been acting different. I asked her whats wrong and she says she doesnt know if she love me anymore. She doesnt know if she wants to break up with me or not and says she is too buys to have a relationship. i love her so much i guess i will tell you what she has said exactly. she says she is to buys with work. she wants to hang with the guys and wont cheat but is worried that i feel uncomfortable about it. she says she wouldnt want to break up with me because she loves hanging with my family and cuddling with me and sleeping with me and all that. and if we break up she thinks i wouldnt want her to come to my house and all that the last is she says she has a lot of friends that have had problems with their lives becuase she has and it seems that she doesnt like me because i have had a good life and that my parents love me a lot but i cant help that and i told her that too. my parents treat her as if she was part of the family too. i saw her earlier today and she kept smiling and looking at me like she loves me still, but doesnt mean it? i just need help on what too do i finally found a girl that i love and i never do anything wrong to hurt our relationship i just dont know what she wants me to say or do. Tomorrow we are hanging out at my house after she gets off of work and i am just confused on what i should tell her because i dont want to lose her. so if anyone can help me out i would really appreciate it im just in a emmotional struggle and i dont know what to do. thanks for listening Edited February 8, 2008 by kotan
e.clipse Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 question: how old is this girl? and how old are you?
norajane Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 she says she is to buys with work. she wants to hang with the guys and wont cheat but is worried that i feel uncomfortable about it.That means she wants to go out after work with the guys, drinking, and flirting, without you around and without having to feel responsible for her behavior to you. And you should feel uncomfortable about it. That's exactly the time and place for guys to hit on her, and for those 'accidental' drunken kisses and whatnot. She needs to be strongly committed to you in order to handle that situation without getting into the danger zone of cheating. And you should feel especially uncomfortable about it if she never asks you to join them. I used to go out after work a lot and was big fun, but I always invited my bf to join us if her were able to. Sometimes he did, most times he didn't, but if he were NEVER there, it would be really, really easy for the guys to 'forget' I even had a bf. If she pointedly never invites you, then she doesn't want you there, which is a red flag in and of itself. she says she wouldnt want to break up with me because she loves hanging with my family and cuddling with me and sleeping with me and all that. and if we break up she thinks i wouldnt want her to come to my house and all thatAnd she shouldn't be coming to your house and cuddling after a break-up. If she doesn't want to be your gf, then, sorry, she shouldn't be allowed to use you for comfort and as a back-up guy for when she's not out with someone else. the last is she says she has a lot of friends that have had problems with their lives becuase she has and it seems that she doesnt like me because i have had a good lifeYes, drama likes to be around drama.
Meaplus3 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I have been dating this girl for a few months and she says she loves me but just 2 days ago she has been acting different. I asked her whats wrong and she says she doesnt know if she love me anymore. She doesnt know if she wants to break up with me or not and says she is too buys to have a relationship. i love her so much i guess i will tell you what she has said exactly. she says she is to buys with work. she wants to hang with the guys and wont cheat but is worried that i feel uncomfortable about it. she says she wouldnt want to break up with me because she loves hanging with my family and cuddling with me and sleeping with me and all that. and if we break up she thinks i wouldnt want her to come to my house and all that the last is she says she has a lot of friends that have had problems with their lives becuase she has and it seems that she doesnt like me because i have had a good life and that my parents love me a lot but i cant help that and i told her that too. my parents treat her as if she was part of the family too. i saw her earlier today and she kept smiling and looking at me like she loves me still, but doesnt mean it? i just need help on what too do i finally found a girl that i love and i never do anything wrong to hurt our relationship i just dont know what she wants me to say or do. Tomorrow we are hanging out at my house after she gets off of work and i am just confused on what i should tell her because i dont want to lose her. so if anyone can help me out i would really appreciate it im just in a emmotional struggle and i dont know what to do. thanks for listening Hi,I'm sorry your having a tough time right now, I can understand how you are feeling. You mentioned your seeing her tomarrow. Would you be comfortable about just coming out and asking her how she's feeling about your R? AP:)
Author kotan Posted February 9, 2008 Author Posted February 9, 2008 Ok so we broke up and she says she likes me alot and wouldnt do anything with another guy because she would feel like its still cheating. So it seems like she really likes me alot still just acts different around me because we broke up. and today this one other girl i know wants to go on a date and chill with me. so i just dont understand if my ex just needs to take a break for a bit or something and needs to cool off and just needs some time alone and if i start dating another girl i know she would get really pissed. so what should i do now? wait for her to cool or jump right back in the game and start dating another girl? because when i saw her yesterday i guess all that stuff she said to me before where just bull crap i dont know.
norajane Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Are you still in love with your now-ex? If so, then no, don't start going out with another girl. It's not fair to the other girl since your heart belongs to someone else! And you're not likely to even notice how great she might be because you'll be comparing her to your ex. Tell her you just broke up with someone and you need a little time to deal with the fall-out. And no, your ex is not taking a break from you. She BROKE UP with you.
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