Pics on his myspace of us together and with my family- what the hell??!!

[sveltskye]

I KNOW I'm not supposed to do this but I looked on his myspace to see if he'd changed it to single and he had but he still had pictures of us up and he'd CHANGED them since the breakup and put up a new one of us, my sister and her boyfriend and my mom at Thanksgiving. Plus, he kept up one of the pictures of us being all lovey dovey and looking at eachother. I'm really trying not to read into this, but its freaking weird!!! What is he thinking?! I mean, I haven't been able to bear taking my pics of him down yet, but I didn't put up new ones- and with MY family???

[sveltskye]

Oh and btw, he dumped ME and said he wanted to be friends, but still!

[Cannondale]

My ex still has pics of us up on her facebook and myspace, she's with a new guy too. I don't get it....kind of funny I think.

[s_n_d]

Let it be and dont read into it.

If he wants you back he will let you know.

But you need to continue healing and please dont go on his myspace again. Going on your exs facebook or myspace or whatever doesnt help at all.

[stayc208]

totally agreed. facebook and myspace do nothing to help the grieving process. I've decided to set a goal for myself.. go on there less and less each day. 10x, 9x, 8x, etc... until you don't feel the need to check on him anymore.

 

Or try to think of it as maintaining NC. You still see them/pictures of them and their daily life. You don't need to know about that stuff while focusing on being selfish.

 

I am totally obsessed with checking things and it doesn't help me at all, snooping and still trying to control an uncontrollable situation.

 

You're strong and can do it! Time heals all wounds

[sveltskye]

Yeah, I'm not gonna go on again. I've been obsessing too much. I've gotta try to take my mind of off this.

[stayc208]

i am totally guilty of major stalking on facebook and it is a terrible habit. I'm tempted to delete them off my friends list just so I don't have that temptation...

 

It's just hard to let them go and move on for yourself.

 

I know I am much better without him, but I still want to know everything about him.

 

Sorry for being a hypocrite :-/

[sveltskye]

Yeah, its true, its very compulsive. Its like you know what a bad idea it is but its so tempting.

 

I haven't wanted to deal with the sadness of taking down our pics on my myspace yet. It'll be so... final, you know?

 

Besides, I need to get my own computer up and working so I can save the pics- I don't want to throw them away.

[HoustonScrewed]

I wouldn't worry about it at all, I have pictures up on the internet of an ex from five years ago, I just found them today. I looked on her photo site and her version of the same photos are still up. I am not going to remove them, they are memories, if she asked I would but would wonder why. There is someone else that I dated that I kept the pictures, but stored them in a private area. The break up was nasty though.

[oppath]

I looked at a ex's from 8 years ago myspace, she is recently single. I clicked on her now ex boyfriends page and went to his photos. there are tons of them together. All the captions read "my ex and I."

 

Dayum!!!! I'd be pissed if I were her. I don't know the nature of the breakup but it came off to me as "I am now single, ignore this pretty girl in my photos." It was weird, there were like 10 photos and in every caption he said "my ex." I just didn't see the need to explain it.