JimMorrison Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 (edited) Aight well I feel that I have moved on, after a tumultuous past few months of stringing along by my ex. I have come to grips and realized while she was a good girl, she had many many setbacks. So I have been going to work, going to school, going to the gym, working for my computer company I own, making new friends at school, and keeping very busy. I've been playing a lot more of my guitar, and I just read in a magazine that there's this new program that comes with a nice microphone and trains you on singing. That looks pretty cool, modestly priced too, I think I'll give it a go! I have read a few great books on Love, and feel like I learned a lot because of the breakup - and feel I can be the best I can be for my next partner. I have read a lot of this site and learned a lot about human nature, how crazy this world is, and how to handle breakups. But anyways- My ex said she wanted to keep my sweatshirts, as she still wears them. I told her fine, okay, she could have them. I asked if she wanted hers back and she said she doesnt wear em. I was going to mail them back, but I figured what the hell she said she wont wear em (and why waste postage on her?!), so I think I'll just throw them out -- as well as any other of her property she said she didn't want. Probably not a bad idea? I was thinking of my massive photo/video collection I have of us. It doesn't tear at me to look at them, but Im thinking maybe down the road it would be possible. I was thinking of deleting them all. Maybe keeping one? Not sure -- don't want to do anything rash, and it feels weird just deleting a few years of my life in a blip. I made her a DVD of all our good times , and it was quite a work of art. I worked on it for about 10-15 hours, but Im thinking of throwing out my master copy. Its a great DVD, and I love the way I put it together, but I think it could only serve more bad than good. It was my Christmas gift to her and it was the catalyst to the ultimate demise. I made a really cool myspace page, after protesting them for years. I didnt like them because everyone would overload and overcrowd it making it look like crap. But I made a really slick looking page. MySpace is pretty cool, I didn't realize the flexibility and how powerful it can be. I plan on keeping it till my death! Maybe one day she will bump into it, see my happiness, success and greatness once again, and then for her it will be too late for anything, and maybe teach her a lesson in flaking out. BTW the title of this thread was originally "Some Opinions?" and it didnt like the word opinion, said it violated community guidelines?! How zany this shack is. Edited February 8, 2008 by JimMorrison
Scooter25 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Well Mr. Mojo Risen it sounds like your doing more than okay with everything. Honestly, I was in your shoes after my break up with my G-friend of 4 years. I couldn't bare to throw things out at first but after about two months of being broken up and NC I threw away most of the things she gave me as well as pictures. I figured that it wouldn't be fair to the next person if I held on to a bunch memories of an ex.
sandflea Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Put the stuff in a box labelled "toxic" and put it in the attic. In a few years, after you've moved on, you'll be able to look at the stuff and smile... SF
becauseofyou Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I agree. Put them in a box and store them away. They are a part of your life and would be good to look back on and see how much you have grown emotionally since then. Don't throw them out as I am sure you will regret it. At least wait a while until you do and then you can ditch them without any doubt in your mind. Best of luck!
Pyro Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Its your call dude. Me personally, when a relationship is over for good, then the memories go with it. I throw away pictures and everything. The only things that I would keep are the practical items. I wouldn't throw away a watch that an ex bought me as a gift.
Jackieboy Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Hmm, Difficult one. I agree with Sandflea, at the moment that stuff is totally toxic. However there are a lot of photos of you and how you were at the time. It would be a shame to throw them out as in a few years you may like to have them. Put them in a box, heal, move on, meet someone new and then look at them when you are clear, objective and rational. Re a new significant other? well we all have pasts you will just have to play that one by ear and see what their opinion may be......
serendip Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Come on, come on, come on, come on Now touch me, baby Can't you see that I am not afraid? What was that promise that you made? Why won't you tell me what she said? What was that promise that you made? I'm gonna love you Till the heavens stop the rain I'm gonna love you Till the stars fall from the sky for you and I I'm gonna love you Till the heavens stop the rain I'm gonna love you Till the stars fall from the sky for you and I
starlite Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I would definately store them. 10 years from now, heck, a year from now, you may want to take a trip down memory lane no matter how bad you feel now. Put them somewhere that you dont see them everyday. Under the bed, in a closet...anywhere.
Author JimMorrison Posted February 8, 2008 Author Posted February 8, 2008 Thanks everyone. Ill put all my pictures on a DVD and stowe away the master DVD of that video I made. Serendip, I wrote that song for her and she said it doesn't matter, nothing I say or do can change anything!
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