bella07 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I met a guy around august last year. WE met up for lunch and then arranged a date. That was all good. He'd msg but never call. But i didnt think much of it. He'd text message saying he missed me, couldn't stop thinking of me etc. Anyway, he didn't arrange another meeting till around November but we'd talk online and he'd say he was busy with work and family commitments. I thought something was fishy. I sent him an email saying i couldn't stand the uncertainty and demanded he tell me what he wanted to happen from here. Immediately got a reply saying yes he was interested, he liked me and he'd arrange something soon. I deleted his number after a while but Some how everytime i did that he'd get in contact again saying he like to see me. I saw him in November and we talked heaps and he was honest about everything.. i think we had a good connection. Then that same process would start again. He'd keep in contact for about a week after then it would all die down. I deleted his number again wondering why the hell i put up with crap like this.. only to receive another text from him asking if i was just waiting for him to contact me all the time. I'd had enough at that point but was civil to him because i did like him alot. That last bit of contact was in December. So now its been about 2 months with no contact. i see him online but he doesn't speak. That's his pattern.. and i am telling myself i need to just forget it but it's so hard especially when you put yourself out there in a natural response to all the nice things he tells you, only to get hurt in the process. I don't know whether he's waiting for me to show a bit more interest. Do guys get hung up about calling women as much as we do about calling men? I've been very tempted to give him a call. Or should I just cross him off the list and move on?
Jilly Bean Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Hon, if a guy is really interested, he doesn't wait three months to see you again. He's one of the following: 1 - already involved with someone else 2 - a player and involved with MANY others while he plays the field Either way, what you tell your best friend about a guy like this? I am sure you'd tell her he's not worth another moment of thought. If you call him, just expect more of the same...
EYECANDY000 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I honestly havent read anything that he has done wrong. Why are you letting him contact you all the time? It seems like it is dying down because he wants to feel certain that you want to speak to him, just as much as he wants to speak to you. If I had to keep contacting someone and they never made the initiative then I start texting less and less as well. It seems like heis interested in you, if he keeps contacting you after a month or so goes by. Maybe he is thinking that it would be different each time he contacts you. Start contacting him and show an effort that you want to spend time with him.
CD111 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I agree, move on. The last thing you want to do is get involved with this guy. All it would be is drama for you. If he does call just tell him you are no longer interested because he is flaky.
Author bella07 Posted February 8, 2008 Author Posted February 8, 2008 Yep i know .. that's exactly what i would tell a friend if i was asked for advice. It's funny that we cant sometimes take that advice for ourselves. Thanks!
EYECANDY000 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 hmmm, i must have read it wrong.. let me go back and re- read... sowwie!!!
Author bella07 Posted February 8, 2008 Author Posted February 8, 2008 haha that's ok. It's good to get a range of different replies here anyway to put it all in perspective. And i must say, wow u guys are quick.
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