Lucky555 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 why do rebounds make me feel so good? So after seeing someone and being strong enough not to talk to him....because all of a sudden things fell into nothing.....but i just want a rebound. I don't like feeling this way because i know someone else would be hurt once i left them. is it the fact i am desirable to someone else? Because when i do this i just feel like i am getting to move on very easily and it makes being alone so much easier and then i end up alone because i know i am going to break up with them from the beginning. I find this to be a pattern and i need to change it which is what i am doing by staying away from guys for the time being and not being involved. But how much time should someone take out of dating? What are some signs?
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Sorry, Lucky - but I do not know your situation can you clue us in? It's okay to have these feelings. After a break up its hard to figure out what's left of you. If it's a long relationship, the personalities braid together and once you break up - you have to get to know you all over again. I don't think there's a magical date or range in which to say, "I'm ready." However, get out and do things you like to do and if you find someone that likes you, go for it. If it works, fine. If it doesn't fine.
SamZamboni Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Rebounds can be healthy and therapeutic if we recognize them for what they are to us at the time.
Author Lucky555 Posted February 8, 2008 Author Posted February 8, 2008 well i guess i am just wondering why rebounds feel so good! I have done this in other relationships , not just this past one. I have not had a relationship over 6 months. Its like i reach a mark and find this is not what i want and i am unhappy. The relationships i have had had left me feeling like i didn't take first priority in their life. And i always felt alone even with someone. They don't meet my criteria and i fall out of lust with them. I don't think i have ever been in love. I then break it off and Then i rebound and feel on top of the world again Yeah its therapeutic but there has to be some other way to cope. I have been working out at the gym for starters so this has helped but then when i sit i think to myself and i still desire that rebound. I think i am just trying to figure out another way and i am also trying to figure out what i should be doing to do this. I guess perhaps there is no way to say when there is a perfect time to start seeing another person, right now i know its not right because i still think of this other guy and until i can completely just not think about him and have feelings is when i should start dating.
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