Magnatolia Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Hi all, A girl that I've worked with a few times is really attractive but I always thought she came across as rude and snobby to me when I spoke to her. I used to feel that when she responded she was only doing so out of politeness rather than an interest in chatting with me. Although over time she seems to talk a bit more to me. Like sometimes she'll pass me and ask about my day. I know she's not one of those people that socialises with workmates unless she sees them as a mate. Anyway I basically didn't bother about her, but a week or so ago I found out that she's actually extremely shy and had very few friends during school which is exactly how I've been. We talked about it for about 30 minutes or so. I invited her to lunch a few times but she never got back to me. So I'm wondering. Do you think that was shyness? Should I try again?
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I think it is her shyness that is keeping her from responding to you. Lay off the asking out and just talk to her. You may need to put in extra time with her to make her feel more at ease with herself and being around you. If she's worth the effort to you, then put it in. Eventually, she will respond.
SeraBella Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I agree with Blue Eyed Brain. And by going to lunch, do you mean going to a restaurant? Or is there like a kitchen/cafeteria where you work, and you just mean eating together during the lunch break?
Lucasarts Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Yeah if you really like her than i would suggest that you try to engage in more conversations with her; the fact that she hasn't responded to your lunch dates may mean she might be hesitant/shy about going out with you. This is probably because she doesn't really know you too well and maybe afraid of taking that risk, in fear of that she may come off as socially awkward. It's interesting that she didn't even respond to your calls; usually this means she doesn't like you, but if she's still talking to you then that maybe that she could be afraid of talking to people of interest over the phone? or anxiety or fear of being socially awkward (usually this applies to guys, but girls do suffer from this as well i've noticed). Honestly in the minds of men and women its hard to understand everyone because each person is so different and how they approach these situations vary.
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