SaddEyes Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 These threads are usually lengthy but I'll try to sum it up as "un-lengthy" as possible. I was with a girl "katie" for a long time. I met her in 2001...we had a baby girl in 2003 and a son in 2006 and although i undoubtfully knew she was cheating many many many times while i was with her......i stayed because i discovered i loved her so much i could not leave, but upon the latest endeavors of her unfaithfulness in novemeber and december of 2006 I got sick of it and I met another girl online....on plentyofish.com named "Rebecca". Rebecca was beautiful and I talked to her behind Katies back for awhile on the computer and then on the phone. Rebecca knew I was with Katie and she told me Katie was a whore and I should move in with her until I got my bearings. I did. Rebecca and I kissed and fell in love in April 2007. While I was living with rebecca I was treated so much differently----no fighting. when I was sloppy she said "its a man thing", she cleaned up after me and we were so perfect lol ( i know lol). Anyway when I went to see my kids or to pick them up ofcourse Katie would find a way to "suck me in" and cry and make me feel bad...... Rebecca was talking about buying a house together after only a month together...talking about marriage. I loved Rebecca......and mildley I found that I could care less about Katie....BUT somehow I was not ready for marriage and I slipped away from Rebecca....I moved in my friend. Rebecca said she missed me....Katie said she missed me and I was single....then a few months later September, rebecca met someone else, Cole. I fell into Katies trap again and moved back in with her. A few months of the old stuff made me realize how much I hate it here...how much I hate her....even though she says shes not going to cheat on me anymore its like I dont even care for some reason, its like living with a stranger and I really miss Rebecca. Rebecca and I sometimes talk on msn. She sent me an email a few days ago saying that she would not change anything but her and Cole are going to get married (after 5 months!?!??!?!?!) in August and she says I will always be special to her. I am moving into an apartment tomorrow by myself 45 mintues away from Katie and she thinks its because of my job but its really an escape. I miss Rebecca, do you think I could ever possibly get her back....and get away from Katie?
guessjeans Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Dont you think the quickness that Rebecca moves a HUGE RED FLAG? This woman was just a rebound relationship and I think that perhaps you and the guy she is with now is a rebound from some recent relationship she had. There arent many relationships that last long term when you've known them for only 5 months and make plans to marry them. Think about it! Its not adding up. Stop looking for woman to comfort you during this difficult time. You arent going to learn from the mistakes from the past as long as you have no down time to get to know yourself again. You may think Rebecca is the answer to all your worries. But that has disaster written all over it. If you really want this woman back, then you have to earn her back. And that means working on YOU. And giving yourself some down time to realize what exactly you want and more importantly, dont want in your life anymore. Ppl change..you have changed. But get your bearings first before. You are not emotionally healthly at the moment. If Rebecca is someone you want back in your life, then this woman needs to work on herself too. She has her own demons it looks like. But stay clear of her right now. For a long time! I dont think she is your answer either. No woman is right now. Get yourself emotionally healthy first, then life will point you in the right direction. I'm thinking life will point you in a direction away from both these woman, but stay away from Rebecca. That is truly a disaster waiting to happen.
HotPink Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Neither of these women seem like they are right for you. You need to be alone for a while to realise what you truly want.
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