HokeyReligions Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Curious on guy's opinions of the language women use. And women's opinion's too - what do you think of women who swear or don't. Would you date a woman who swears a lot during normal conversation? Like "Holy Sh**" instead of "Holy Cow" or uses the F word a lot or damn. What kind of opinion do you have of women who swear? Do you think them less lady-like? What about women who never swear? Do you think of them as anymore lady-like or professional or more or less intelligent? I guess what I'm asking is what type of person do you think a woman is who swears or doesn't? More casual? Tougher? More or less feminine? More or less self confident? I'm just curious. I didn't used to swear at all and as I've gotten older and been married and around people who swear more, I've picked it up a bit. I've watched some old TV shows and thought to myself - "I'm not quite the lady I used to be" LOL! And I've found that I attract a different type of person as well. The people I click with now are not the same as they used to be. I'm trying to not swear anymore because I don't really like how I am perceived sometimes and it's actually crept into my work too. Mainly the 'S' word.
Citizen Erased Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I dislike it when my female friends are out and feel the need to swear constantly. I will swear if I am writing something and angry, but I don't see the need for swearing really. I could live without it. Except for the word arse. It's not swearing if you use the traditional English spelling I can however see how you can unconsciously say specific words. I have sworn rather loudly in public at my boyfriend and been mortified when I realise what I said.
quankanne Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 as I've gotten older and been married and around people who swear more, I've picked it up a bit. lol, hoke, I think letting down your hair and being more earthy is a special grace that comes when you hit 40. I imagine that as a young bride, an escaped poot embarassed the heck out of you *raises hand* but now you just let them rip. Same with the salty language. Which isn't very lady like, but hey, you're now a woman of a certain age, so screw 'em all!!!! I'm in a water fitness class at the local junior college, and I'm the "baby" of the class at 42. I've noticed that we ladies tend to cut loose and be more rowdy than the college freshmen lifegards watching us, and it's hard not to behave properly in front of them. Like digging swimsuits out of cracks or readjusting boobs because they've slipped out of place doing jumping jacks, etc. One of the older women admitted it's actually kind of fun being older simply because she CAN get away with doing those things, lol
Ehaze Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I really don't care, (NORMALY) if the girl curses allot, she is very fun and, likes to do more off the wall things (I enjoy that). Girls that don't say at-least a few curse words are normaly(to me NOT all) stuck up, and think they are too good, or have REALLY high standards.
Trialbyfire Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 WTF are you talking about? There's a time and a place for swearing. While you're in the middle of a business meeting, is not the time to bring out the four letter words. I grew up in a family that almost never swore. When my dad got really, really mad, he would say "God damn"! I could count the times on one hand I've ever heard him use shyte. My mother doesn't swear at all. Myself, I acquired the habit from work. You might be surprised to hear that much of what is said behind the scenes, in a finance/investment company, is bracketed by swearing. As for being ladylike...too bad. If someone gets butt-hurt or offended by a few words, they need to take a chill pill...
Phateless Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Working in the car business for 3 years has opened my mind to all sorts of new ways to curse that I never could have imagined. I am quite pleased with my vocabulary, lol. That being said, I like a girl who can curse once in a while, but in general I'm not attracted to ones with filthy mouths, unless the context is right. Hearing my ex swear in her cute little russian accent was hilarious tho. I curse here and there, mostly around my guy friends. I try not to curse too much around women. What do you ladies think about men cursing?
ahah2322 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 men cursing... TURN OFF women cursing.. TURN OFF if some naughty words sneak in once in a while, it's ok. but if it's part of your lingo, NOT COOL AT ALL.
lovelorcet Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 There's a time and a place for swearing. While you're in the middle of a business meeting, is not the time to bring out the four letter words. I would agree with this. We seem to use the "bullsh$t" terms every now and then in our meetings but seeing as how it is our profession to separate the bull from the real sh$t I think its ok...
CD111 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Totally agree with trialbyfire, sometimes cursing is acceptable and other times it is not. Professionally it's a no-no. When meeting SO's parent's not a good time to start using your entire vocabulary. But when I am sitting around a campfire with my friends my vocab can get a bit more colorful. It usually depends on whom I am sharing my presence with. If a guy can't accept the fact that I do curse at some instances well he is just not the guy for me.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I curse, but only if it makes the convo funny or if I am raving mad (which is not often). Women cursing - not cool Men cursing - not cool I will say that there are times when it is appropriate, but to say "Look at that ****ing big TV" or something to that affect, is un-necessary. I think people that use curse words to express themselves (outside of a rage) expose a lack of vocabulary and sometimes the curse word, fits perfectly.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I do more then I use to its def a habit you can pick up from others easily if your not careful. I'm watching myself more lately I don't mind once in a while. But when I sound like I should be eating at a truck stop on the turn pike its def time to watch it lol. Thats for myself personally I don't mind hearing it once in a while from others guys or girls no difference to me really. The thing I just can't stand tho is when your out in public and you get the teeny bopers. Who shriek every filthy obscenity they can think of on top of there lungs for fun it seams that just eeks me to no end.
fral945 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I'm not a big fan of women (or anyone, really) swearing a lot, especially in public. I curse myself a lot, sometimes vocally and other times just in my head, but usually not in front of others. When I do something stupid I'll usually tell myself "great job, dips***", or "you f***ing douchebag" (not sure if douchebag is considered a curse word). Anybody else talk to themselves that way like me? lol I don't want a prude though. It's good if a woman swears when having sex. Like when she says: "F*** me harder" or "stick it in my a**". Cursing is not all bad.
blind_otter Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I curse a lot. I grew up cursing. My mom speaks english as a second language and was taught to speak english by a bunch of sailors (literally, my Dad was in the Navy)...so she has a habit of dropping bombs all the time. The first time my SO met my mother she was outside the garage and he was inside, and he heard her drive up, get out of her car, and proceed to say "WTF is this sh*t? This is f*cking bullsh*t!" I don't think she really understands the full meaning behind the swear words. As a result I have a potty mouth. I'm trying to curb my swearing in preparation for the baby. Mainly I'm trying to replace the swear words with funny words. "effing" or "poo". That kind of thing. It's not very successful. When I get frustrated at work, and am alone in my cubicle, I swear A LOT. My office mate has commented on it.
Pyro Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I am not too fond of a woman who swears in excess, but its not a dealbreaker. In my experience though, all the women who did swear in excess were the ghetto/drama queen/emotional baggage type.
Mustang Sally Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Unfortunately, swearing is probably my biggest vice. I am certainly intelligent enough to use other words, but I do find cursing to be quite cathartic. I don't do it in business meetings or other inappropriate places and my kids are unaware that I swear. I don't smoke, drink, gamble, cheat (except in my thoughts), or eat to excess, so I guess I've figured I'm entitled... My New Year's Resolution this year was to try and cut way back on the foul mouth. F*ck-Sh*t-Damn, but it's been tough!
Lizzie60 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Cursing is one of my worst pet peeve.. I just can't stand people (men and women) who use sloppy language especially in public and as loud as they possibly can.. It is a sign of uneducated people who talk like they walk.. who look and act like 'hillbillies'.. It is vulgar and cheap.. they look like 'idiots'..
Carmen87 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 My New Years resolution was to cut back on the potty mouth as well. I grew up on a dairy farm and boy is it hard to keep the bad language under control when you are surrounded by hicks!
sb129 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I swear in front of friends but not alot in public and NEVER at work. Can you imagine how you would feel if you heard your dentist say "Oops" "sh*t" or "f8ck"? Wonderboy has a bit of a potty mouth, once we were at a game, and he had paid alot for the seats, and started calling the winning team (not ours) c*nts. When I asked him to tone it down, his response was that he had paid £400 to watch his team win (this very very very important game), and if they didn't, he was entitled to use whatever words he liked. The team lost. I shut my mouth.
blind_otter Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I swear in front of friends but not alot in public and NEVER at work. Can you imagine how you would feel if you heard your dentist say "Oops" "sh*t" or "f8ck"? Wonderboy has a bit of a potty mouth, once we were at a game, and he had paid alot for the seats, and started calling the winning team (not ours) c*nts. When I was dating a guy from Scotland I went to visit him and was shocked at the masses of people who would throw the c-word around. Even 80year old grandmothers would say it.
quankanne Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 lol, that reminds me of something my girlfriend's daughter once told us: She had a penpal from Britain, who told her that her folks would let slide American-style cursing (like "forkin' bxtch") but would ground her for using the phrase "bloody tart"!!! I guess it's a cultural thing. I think there are periods where I get positively noxious with cussing, though they're far and few in between. Mostly, it's words like dumb*ss, pendejo, stupid shxt and jackass. With jackass and pendejo most prevalent. But I do try to watch what I say, damned "proper lady" drilling from my mother!
a4a Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Time and a place for it. I don't appreciate it when it is not meant as it is supposed to be meant. Such as "this is a great f-ing steak" = bad use If a bird poops on you and you say "f-ing dumbass birds" = okay Never use a word that could be considered "bad" when meeting new people..... I won't swear unless they do first. I may have a touch of tourettes...... so... ****, ****, ****........
a4a Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 lol, that reminds me of something my girlfriend's daughter once told us: She had a penpal from Britain, who told her that her folks would let slide American-style cursing (like "forkin' bxtch") but would ground her for using the phrase "bloody tart"!!! I guess it's a cultural thing. I think there are periods where I get positively noxious with cussing, though they're far and few in between. Mostly, it's words like dumb*ss, pendejo, stupid shxt and jackass. With jackass and pendejo most prevalent. But I do try to watch what I say, damned "proper lady" drilling from my mother! jackass is a dirty word???
quankanne Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I may have a touch of tourettes. reminds me of Larry the Cable Guy talking about his deaf brother who uses sign language … "sometimes this (*flips a bird*) slips into the dialogue, I think he's got Tourettes" … jackass is a dirty word??? mostly in HOW it's used
Balthazar Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 I hate hearing women swear, it immediately drop them several classes in my eyes, and I find myself treating them less respectfully. I disapprove of swearing by men too, however, I am a bit flexible with us guys using it between ourselves, especially when watching sports!
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