Author mclovin Posted February 10, 2008 Author Posted February 10, 2008 And by the way, you only think you got away with it, you haven't. Bentnobroken~ What do you mean I "think" I got away with it but I haven't? If he didn't find out that is called getting away with it. I'm just clarifying factual information here. Of course there's always that chance that my H could find out about the OM. How, I don't know as I covered my track marks and I'm no longer seeing the OM. It's slightly possible but unlikely and it's best for all parties that way.
bentnotbroken Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 Bentnobroken~ What do you mean I "think" I got away with it but I haven't? If he didn't find out that is called getting away with it. I'm just clarifying factual information here. Of course there's always that chance that my H could find out about the OM. How, I don't know as I covered my track marks and I'm no longer seeing the OM. It's slightly possible but unlikely and it's best for all parties that way. No it is only best for you and the OM. Being lied to by the people you trust, isn't what is best for the spouses. And you haven't gotten away with anything. In time it all comes around. Sometimes sooner, some times later. Whatever is done in the dark, always comes to the light.
twice_shy Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 Chroma- What's going on with the hostility? My intention was to come on here for advice. The affair was wrong, which I admitted intially. the hostility is that you are playing with your H. You already know you want other men, so get out of the marriage. Spare your husband and let him move on and find someone decent. You owe him that. But so far that doesn't seem like what you are doing. You had the guts to have an affair, have the guts enough to end the marriage and let that poor man find happiness with someone else.
twice_shy Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 With your track record I'm surprised anyone after this would truly date you Good point. After my divorce, I turned down someone in my town(everybody knows everybody and everybody's business) because she is a known runaround. When I turned her down her friend asked me that night why I wouldn't go out with her and I told her its because I wouldn't be able to trust her and that she likes her company with too many other men. She went back and told her friend that (like they are in junior high or something) and she came back and told me that she said for me to fek off. I laughed at her and said, "see, my instincts don't fail me".
twice_shy Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 First of all Chrome, you're still disrespectful. Hence the term, "spread your legs" is degrading. . No, degrading is what you are doing to your husband. And it was a proper description of what you are doing. Sure its crude, but that is what you are engaging in. Sorry, being in an affair in the manner you are doing is crude and disrespectful. So forgive me if I am not crying you a river on being "degraded".
Elena62 Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 I only know that I wish my H would have told me ALL three times that he cheated on me with OW - and all the times he had EA! IF he would have been honest, IF he never cheated. IF he never asked me for a divorce, then we might have stood a chance of getting through our stuff. Instead, we spent 20 years in a stormy relationship, leading to a legal separation. He does what the hell he likes (nothing new) I made one error and corrected it recently. Honesty is the best policy, always. But if you cheat just once and don't admit to it, then the possibility remains high that it will happen again in any relationship you walk into. I don't mean to offend anyone by what I say. I'm just going by what 20 years of experience has shown me.
Jess-Belle Posted March 3, 2008 Posted March 3, 2008 But if you cheat just once and don't admit to it, then the possibility remains high that it will happen again in any relationship you walk into. I have to agree as for myself. I didn't turn myself around until I finally got caught.
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