Revontulet Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 First of all, This is my first message on this board, I felt i needed some place to talk about my personal feelings and I think i've found the right forum for this. We met randomly while going out in town, we were both quite tipsy maybe even slightly drunk, we kissed randomly in one of our favorite bars, the thing she immediately said after we got outside is that she had to go on vacation for 4 weeks, felt quite bad after that but okay. So I waited 4 weeks, when she got back I felt like everything was good again, we celebrated our 1 month of together despite only seeing her 1 time, we did kept contact over email during those 4 weeks Everything was going okay for 1 month, We even had sexual intercourse and one time we went to a bar together, she forgot her coat inside, it was raining heavy and we couldn't get back in the bar anymore since it had such A long line, so i borrowed her my jacket and there i was cycling in the heavy rain with my girlfriend on the back of my cycle, when I got back home i realized that must be true love because I would never do something for anyone else, I felt really happy at that time, Then 3 weeks later I had a party from a friend of mine, and I asked her to come along, she dint feel much for it but she went with me eventually, She was acting quite suspicious on that party like she was hiding something, and she was. When i got back home i got a textmessage saying that she cheated on me and that our relationship was over. (she also noted that she dint really want a Longterm relationship) The day after I heard from friends that she cheated on me with 2 guys, 1 of them being a very good friend of mine, He later talked to me on MSN and let out an really long letter saying that he was absolutely sorry and that he had too much alcohol, i forgave hem, what else could I do? he says he's sorry and I know he is, I can't be mad on him for too long about it although i felt a bit betrayed at first Somehow I dint cry for it and i felt only bad the 1st day, after that everything went back to normal before those 2 months, Now I was wondering Why don't I feel bad about it? did I not love her so much? i really thought that this was it, the real deal, a really long term relationship and I really did felt real love when i was cycling in the rain for her, I guess i was wrong... Thanks for hearing my story, Greetz Rev
82knightrider Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 You barely new this girl. Just be glad you saw her true colors early in the "if you wanna call it relationship" lol:laugh:
Lee725 Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Somehow I dint cry for it and i felt only bad the 1st day, after that everything went back to normal before those 2 months, Now I was wondering Why don't I feel bad about it? did I not love her so much? i really thought that this was it, the real deal, a really long term relationship and I really did felt real love when i was cycling in the rain for her, I guess i was wrong... Some people take a little while to develop deep feelings in a relationship. Given that you only actually spent 4 weeks with her in person it is not all the surprising that you dont hurt now. You cycled in the rain to make a good impression on her, it does not mean that by doing it you were "in love" with her. She seems like a rather "bad apple", be thankful it happened now, not later when you might have been in love with her.
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