emalkoc Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 well it has been 6 mos since we split..Very LC. Mostly equal from both sides but nothing special..She is seeing someone LDR overseas (5 weeks after we broke up) very light but not concrete relationship, all I could tell. She is living alone. Yesterday, it was our 3rd year anniversary and I did not contact OR send her anything to her... But I heard from a mutual friend that she had a very difficult day yesterday. She went home late after having a dinner with a friend and she cried all nite bathing etc... We have been NC last 2 weeks now. She and I see each other online but barely chat; once a every other week. First time in months, she is not online; I guess she is really pissed at me. why? I asked 3 times to get together for coffee or lunch in last 2 mos, she declined all. So, I am moving on but I dont understand why she is so stubborn if she cares or loves me to even cry. Any feedback? did I screw-up with not contacting her on anniversary..I dont think I did because she is stringing me along rather than working out the relationship... Thanks
BrianG Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 First, You have made numerous attempts to get together for coffee or whatever and she declined every single one. Second, it "would have been" your anniversary, not "is your anniversary." Hate to be harsh, but it seems to be pretty much over for now or forever. Easy to say but you need to focus on other things besiders her. If any contact is going to be initiated it has to come from her from now on. So continue to move on with your life and if she surfaces it could be a pleasant suprise.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I dont think that you did anything wrong. She is crying because she is still hurt over the break up. By her not contacting you is probaly h er wau of coping with things. She may feel like she loves you and the type of person you are, but it hurts worster to still speak to you like everything is ok. If you two are comfortable with talking to each other once every couple weeks then let it stand as that.
s_n_d Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Im going through the same thing as you. Hang in there. I think its better, personally, NOT talking to the ex. It makes everything a lot easier. Everytime I used to talk to him, I used to get this weird, terrible feeling in my gut. The happiness of talking to him was momentary and then what followed was the feeling of utter sadness. Im sure you have gone through this.
Jackieboy Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 You didn't mess up, you did the right thing. She knows how to contact you if she wants, let it go for your own sanity. No contact will help you heal, forget her if you can otherwise the pain will just drag on and on and you will not be able to move forward.
Author emalkoc Posted February 7, 2008 Author Posted February 7, 2008 Thanks all. No, I did not contact at all. I think I did the right thing. I am moving on for sure but keeps me thinking sometime that she has problems with my NC:-) well that was her choice. Cheers
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