micahmo77 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 So today has been one of those days that every memory of her possible has popped into my brain. I almost broke down and called her this morning, then I thought about just driving to her house just to ask her to talk. This sucks! isnt there a time period to where it might be ok to pop up and say I miss you. Or maybe I was thinking about making a photo album with pictures and writting from each event of our best times. I want to make something creative and from the heart and give it to her. Does that sound still very desperate and pathetic? I dont know how long I can play this game to see if she contacts me, hoping I still pop up in her head and maybe shell start to miss us. I just keep hoping that there is a small glimmer of a possibility at working things out.
prisonbreak Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 You already know the answer to that...Dont do it. Let's say you do and she doesn't reciprocate, your going to feel worse. She needs this time to process life without you. When you make contact, that stops her processing and she is back to day 1 also. I know NC is for us, but it's for them too. If they are ever going to realize (see the light) then they need this time too. You have already told her how you feel. You've been doing so good, don't give up. You can do it! Remember it's not a game, it's real life. If you still feel this way in a week or so, then reconsider. But don't do it cause you're having one of those days.
wyrllish Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I had another one of those days today. My ex has been seemingly reaching out to me when I started no contact then minimal contact, her always initiating. Hell I even got a call her last night that wasn't about anything in particular, first one of those in over a month. So I started to reach out a lil more today to her. Then it all went to crap when she basically said she can't talk right now cause her hangout/dating guy/whatever is over. So basically I agree with prison to the point. This post came at a perfect time for me. Oh and definitely do NOT drive over to her house.
BrianG Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 thanks needed that post as well, been havng a rough few days and felt like i had to do something, but the ball is in her court. Needed the reminder to not do anything.
EYECANDY000 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 dont contact her. If she hasnt made an attempt to call you or text you then she may have already moved on with her life. Didnt you state in another post that she has found someone new?
Author micahmo77 Posted February 7, 2008 Author Posted February 7, 2008 Thanks all for your input and reassurance not to do anything, I sure needed it. Especially you prison, I know we have had this conversation before, just hasent sunk in yet I guess. I hate these days, its almost like its hard to even get out of the house. I just keep thinking to myself there has to be something I can do to get her back. I know...NC! im sticking with the plan for now. Its day 8 today and slowly counting down. Oh and Eyecandy yes I did say she found someone and that I busted them both out. However dont know thier status now, maybe still messing around but dont know. Can say I love her so deeply, I just keep thinking to myself that if she sees that im gone maybe the tides will turn. I could work on forgiveness if it ever got to that point. Thanks again friends, tonights another night and tomorrow another day, hope our hearts will heal soon.
wyrllish Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 WOW! I went digging into our yahoo messenger archives from july '07 to the end of the year...hard stuff to read. Just miss so much of the hey hun, come over for dinner, let's go out, come over and be with me and the baby, mornings/nights...etc. General showings of concern and wanting me around all the time. *Almost* started calling/texting or even leaving a message to her on yahoo tonight or even a love song video. But yes...yes I know that is USELESS. I must be strong and she must come to me, only way to show her my changed self.
stayc208 Posted February 10, 2008 Posted February 10, 2008 DELETE THAT STUFF!! the only way to get over them is if you completely remove them from your life (for a while i guess)
eagle5 Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I agree, this post just shouts at me to stop thinking such stupid things. I nearly texted her, saying 'like a year ago we were doing this or that', thanks guys, keep strong...
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