borntorun Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 apologies in advance, as im sure this will be a little lenghty. I'll try to sum the background info up..skip to the second paragraph to get to the point... This girl is my cousin's best friend since high school (Im 23 she's 24) . For several years Ive been told by my cousin and my mother (who loves this girl) that she likes me. I had never seen anything to suggest that she did, though I can be a little slow;). I askes her out a few years back at my brothers wedding and she blew me off. Last year I went out quite frequently to some bars and clubs with my cousin and this girl. On her birthday we went to a club, we got drunk, went to a bar, drunk, and at one point she sat in my lap and began frenching my cheek. I chalked it up to her drunken state. She began texting me very frequently usually at night with a "Goodnight". a few weeks later she invited me out to a bar where i expected to find her and my cousin, only it was her and another friend and her friends fiance, no cousin. We only had a few beers, and she asked me If I wanted to go to her place. I said yes. At her place we began making out and she began to take things further by unbuckling my belt. I was "unprepared" to take things that far so I kind of slowed things down . She wound up falling asleep on the couch, and I next to her rather uncomfortably(she was laying on my arm and I lost feeling). At 4am or so she woke and I offered to go since she had to work the next day. I kissed her before leaving and that was that. She wound up getting sick for the next few days and I asked her what she was up to that weekend and she said she was going up to PA with some friends. That weekend she texted me about how much she loved PA. After that I didnt really hear much from her and assumed that she was just looking for a one night thing. About 4 weeks later a girl I work with asked me out, and we began dating. I found out that my cousins friend was not all too happy that I was seeing someone else, in fact she was quite angry. I continued to see this girl and then found out that my cousins friend began seeing someone, which I was not all that happy about. I broke up with the girl I was seeing in early december. At that point I sent my cousins friend an email asking her about that night and explaining to her that I liked her. She sent me an emal back saying that she didnt know what that night was either, but that she didnt exactly do that all the time. She said she did like me but she was now seeing this guy. Fast forward to the end of January: This guy broke up with her (I heard that he was cheating on her). We corresponded by email about two weeks ago, just how you been kinda thing. She made sure she put in one of the emails that she had broken up with this guy. I wound up going to the club last weekend with my cousin and friend again. Again. I saw nothing that made me thing she was interested. My cousin told me that she told her that she didnt think she looked good(which she did) because I didnt dance with her. I never dance at the club, too self concious. I emailed her a few days ago to find out how her new job was going. I then asked her if sh would be interested in doing something this week or weekend. She said to call her later in the week and we could work something out. The Point This girl is way out of my league, at least I think so. We also dont really have much in common. If you read above you see that there was a lot of game playing going on.Ive always liked her so Im looking forward to this, but at the same time Its been a long time since Ive been this nervous about a date. I dont really know what to talk about with her as I dont really know her that well, but i know we dont share a lot of common ground. In many ways shes the opposite of me. Any advice on what to do or to say? Usualy I have no problem BS'ing but when I'm with her I never really know what to say, and its always kind of been the same with her. And to those who read the long autobiography, I'm curious. The other girl that I was seeing, we got along great and the reason we broke up is that she wanted me to spend time with people that she thinks are her friends but she doesnt really know them and I can tell you their not a good crowd. So that was the reason we broke up. She has since said that she was wrong and wants to get back together, but I was kind of waiting to see what would happen with my cousins friend. my mother said I could do better than her, my grandmother didnt like her, my cousin didnt like her, and even my cousin's friend (yes, she met her) didnt like her. My family loves my cousins friend and almost considers her like family, which is good, but is also the reason I dont know what to believe about what i hear. Anyway, would you not get back together with somebody because your because your family doesnt like them? Thanks to those who read through this!! And thanks in advance for any advice!!!
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