Getting back together?????

[Goodin]

I have a very simple question. In your experiences does a relationship work out the second time around?

[blind_otter]

Mine did. But I admittedly have weird circumstances. I was actually with someone else when I met my current SO, and I cheated on my then-boyfriend. Eventually I ended it with my current SO and went back to my then-boyfriend, but it didn't work out. After my then-boyfriend went back to his country, I called my SO and we started hanging out again. We've been together over 2 1/2 years now and are expecting our first child.

[I Luv the Chariot OH]

In my experience, no, because I work on the philosophy of "if it ended once, there's a reason for it, and there's no point in wasting my time again". But as seen above, it can be different for everyone.

[LoveLace]

I've seen many relationships work out on the 2nd try, I've seen a few work out even after 3 times. Sometimes this just seems to be what it takes for 2 people to learn about each other and relationships. Other times it's a sitch that shouldn't work out, but does (like an abusive thing because someone's too scared too leave). The reasons why they work out vary, but I think anything's possible. I think it depends on how it ended the 1st time. Was it over something big or small? That makes a difference. If over something big, the 2 people have to agree on making big changes. If over something small (like an argument over the TV), they figure it out and move on. But even small things can easily damage the relationship forever. Depends on the people involved.

 

Nothing wrong with trying again, and again, if it's what you both want. But if it brings you misery, it's gotta end sometime.