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Yernasia Quorelios Established Member

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  • Women employ the silent treatment and think it's an effective form of communication
  • Women ask questions to which there are no right answers e.g. "Does my bum look big in this?"
  • Women ask to be left alone i.e. NC after dumping then continually find excuses to maintain contact
  • Modern women prefer to use their strength to get over a damaged relationship and start a new one rather than use that strength to support the man they love through a period (possibly lengthy) of weakness and repair the relationship. Old fashioned women do this which is why many have stayed in loving relationships for 50+ years
  • Women can't make up their minds whether they want to be strong-minded and independent or always looked after
  • Women want a man to go away and give them a chance to miss them
  • Women don't answer when a man calls a few days after getting their number
  • Women will cancel a date and then give an absurd excuse
  • Women say they will call at a specific time, don't call and then give the man a hard time for not calling them to find out why they didn't call
  • Women give the silent treatment then say "you aren't listening"
  • Women don't say what's really bugging them but instead elect to comment negatively on some irrelevant but irritating aspect of their partner
  • Women give a man a lot of what he doesn't really want then feel unappreciated when he's not grateful because he didn't really want it in the first place
  • etc etc etc

Any insights would be most welcome :p

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Yernasia Quorelios Established Member

Yernasia Quorelios

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Hi Tony

 

My intention was not to hijack the OP's thread.

 

The title of the thread this post was originally in is What's the thing you most wish you understood about the opposite sex? I didn't think there would be an issue with listing 'things' not understood about the opposite sex rather than 'the thing'.

 

Nonetheless, without agreeing with you, I fully understand your reasoning for coming to your conclusion that I hijacked the thread and subsequently moving the post.

blind_otter Established Member

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[*]Women employ the silent treatment and think it's an effective form of communication

 

I don't do this, and I'm a woman. If anything I'll badger my SO into talking about things.

 

[*]Women ask questions to which there are no right answers e.g. "Does my bum look big in this?"

 

seeking validation, maybe an ego boost. It's called "fishing for compliments."

 

[*]Women ask to be left alone i.e. NC after dumping then continually find excuses to maintain contact

 

I guess because they maintain some hope that things will magically change.

 

[*]Modern women prefer to use their strength to get over a damaged relationship and start a new one rather than use that strength to support the man they love through a period (possibly lengthy) of weakness and repair the relationship. Old fashioned women do this which is why many have stayed in loving relationships for 50+ years

 

HAH! Many old fashioned women suffered in silence for years. IMO, if it's broken and you've tried to fix it, and it's still broken - get rid of it.

 

[*]Women can't make up their minds whether they want to be strong-minded and independent or always looked after

 

Unfamiliar with what you're referring to. Maybe an identity crisis?

 

[*]Women want a man to go away and give them a chance to miss them

 

well they do say absence makes the heart grow fonder....

 

[*]Women don't answer when a man calls a few days after getting their number

 

she either gave a fake number or only gave her number to get you to leave her alone and wasn't ever interested in the first place.

 

[*]Women will cancel a date and then give an absurd excuse

 

see above.

 

[*]Women say they will call at a specific time, don't call and then give the man a hard time for not calling them to find out why they didn't call

 

unfamiliar with this situation.

 

[*]Women give the silent treatment then say "you aren't listening"

 

I don't give the silent treatment, wouldn't know.

 

[*]Women don't say what's really bugging them but instead elect to comment negatively on some irrelevant but irritating aspect of their partner

 

Emotionally immature people do this. Both men and women.

 

[*]Women give a man a lot of what he doesn't really want then feel unappreciated when he's not grateful because he didn't really want it in the first place

 

This occurs because the man has not done his part and clearly communicated what his wants/needs are.

Kamille Established Member

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  • Women employ the silent treatment and think it's an effective form of communication

It's the best tool when anything you might say will be deemed over-emotional

  • Women ask questions to which there are no right answers e.g. "Does my bum look big in this?"

There is a right answer: Your bum looks hot in that - but even better naked.

  • Women ask to be left alone i.e. NC after dumping then continually find excuses to maintain contact

Women, like men, like to keep people who have liked them in their lives.

  • Modern women prefer to use their strength to get over a damaged relationship and start a new one rather than use that strength to support the man they love through a period (possibly lengthy) of weakness and repair the relationship. Old fashioned women do this which is why many have stayed in loving relationships for 50+ years

Modern women have hold jobs, raise children, still do most of the housework and, often, the caring work of their relationships also fall on their shoulders. Women have much higher rates of depression and burn out then ever before. Maybe once the load is better shared amongst partners, women will be ready to be as supportive as their old fashioned counterparts.

  • Women can't make up their minds whether they want to be strong-minded and independent or always looked after

Rephrase. I am independant, strong-minded and looking for someone who will offer support. I don't want to be looked after (which suggest helplessness), I want to be supported (which suggest independance).

  • Women want a man to go away and give them a chance to miss them

Hell yeah. I love the tingling feeling I get when I haven't seen my bf in awhile.

  • Women don't answer when a man calls a few days after getting their number

Women were likely too busy doing other things. Leave a message. If they're not game players, they'll call back.

  • Women will cancel a date and then give an absurd excuse

Men will flake on dates and forget to give an excuse.

  • Women say they will call at a specific time, don't call and then give the man a hard time for not calling them to find out why they didn't call

Never done that.

  • Women give the silent treatment then say "you aren't listening"

See reply to number one. Sometimes expressing yourself is grounds for attacks on your sensitivity or over-emtionality. I don't do silence treatment, but I understand why some women -or men amongst whom my ex- use it.

  • Women don't say what's really bugging them but instead elect to comment negatively on some irrelevant but irritating aspect of their partner

Guilty on that and learning to improve.

  • Women give a man a lot of what he doesn't really want then feel unappreciated when he's not grateful because he didn't really want it in the first place

Ditto for men. Although a lot of what they really want is linked to sexuality.

  • etc etc etc

Any insights would be most welcome :p

 

Gotta love the battle of the sexes, but Yernasia, some of these examples make me wonder where you find your women.

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Hey blind_otter, Kamille

 

Thanks a million for your insights they are much appreciated....and while some of the points posted are based on my own experiences fortunately, for me :p, others are based on observation of male friends' experiences with the opposite sex :D.

 

Also happy to respond to female versions of "I most wish I understood why..." here.

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