Too long distance - can it be an obstacle for romantic relations?

[DavidCleveland]

hi. As i am new in using different internet online dating services i read some information here, but i still have a questions about distant relations of two people. i started using one dating service, http://chatrussianbrides.com, not so long ago. And i worry - could a distance be an obstacle for me to meet a nice girl and to know her better? If you can see a girl, chat with her, send her letters - but you can not take her to movie, restaurant - is it enough to establish strong relations?

[sally4sara]

That's called GUD - geographically undesirable.

 

It's not impossible, but why not look a little closer to home?

[David1975]

Hi, i thank you for reply. i see your point - but i tried to meet a girl in shelbyville and some other places in Indiana for long time. Almost 7 yers. I used newspapers, internet boards - but failed. Friends tell that i am not ugly or plain, i am just too shy. I can not come up to any girl in a club and say "hi" - that's too difficult for me. The only courage i have - to sit by laptop and chat with someone. So, i found one girl - and she was the only person who wanted talk to me again and again. We shared our hopes, dreams, feelings and emotions. i was impressed - that was first time in my life, when somebody needs me, beside relatives and friends! And, sure, i want to keep our relations, develop our soul connection. I know some people who got married after meeting thier soulmates in the internet, abroad. that's my point, my goal and i woudn't like to give up. well, i thank you again for your attention to my post. have a nice day:)

[Replicant]

If you can see a girl, chat with her, send her letters - but you can not take her to movie, restaurant - is it enough to establish strong relations?

 

The constant physical part of a relationship IS important, and cannot be replaced. Unless you are both willing to sacrifice that and settle for little to nothing in that respect. No matter how much you invest emotionally in various forms of communication, it cannot equal physically being close to that person.

[HotPink]

I think you should look closer to home, it is very difficult to have a LDR as it causes much anguish and insecurity.

[TMichaels]

... i started using one dating service, http://chatrussianbrides.com, not so long ago. And i worry - could a distance be an obstacle for me to meet a nice girl and to know her better? If you can see a girl, chat with her, send her letters - but you can not take her to movie, restaurant - is it enough to establish strong relations?

 

DavidCleveland,

 

Do you realize that the girls you are talking to on http://chatrussianbrides.com are PAID to talk to guests like you?

 

Further, did you know that chatrussianbrides.com pays "investors" a 40% commission of what guests spend in VideoChat rooms on the site? See: http://studio.chatrussianbrides.com/register for more information.

 

Given that, is it no wonder that the women you have "met" on that site are anxious and happy to talk to you? The more you chat with them, the more money they and "their sponsors" make off your loneliness and desire to be loved.

 

I understand you are shy and find it difficult to meet new people, but trying to find love on sites like chatrussianbrides.com is not the answer. Quit wasting your time and your money. If you sincerely want to find someone special, do what other posters have suggested and get off the net and look locally.

 

Do you have any hobbies or interests? Get involved in groups or activities where people who share your interests take part.

 

Your friends also know and care for you the most. Tell them that you'd like their help in finding someone special.

 

Is there a cause or organization that you can volunteer your time for that will keep you busy? You'll feel good that you're helping others which will help build your self-confidence as well.

 

Finding "the one" is never easy -- but PAYING someone to talk to you is not the way to go -- no matter how much they say they love and enjoy talking to you. They are getting rich while you are getting your hopes up about a relationship that is nothing more than a high-tech version of prostitution.

 

Sorry to be so blunt, but that's the truth. You deserve better. So, start putting the wheels in motion to get what you want -- the old-fashioned way.

 

Best,

TMichaels

Edited February 8, 2008 by TMichaels

[ellie01]

I totally agree with TMichaels, and maybe you could look into a course to help with your confidence issues. A friend of mine took a public speaking course to help with her shyness and she found that it really helped her to talk to people individually that she didn't know. Just an idea ...