pajamaman Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t141087/ For some background please click on link to previous post. Fast forward..... we got back together and things are going well or were going well. She has been pretty much consistent and the change in her behaviour was very noticeable ever since. We made plans for the future and we exchange intimate words of what we trully felt for each other. Until I said something jokingly..... We were talking on the phone tonight. She was feeling down with her work situation and no prospects in finding a different one plus her MBA course work. We talked about our planned raod trip next month. I told her about my substantial raise in my salary from work. She said I should double up on car payments so I can get it paid off early. I said (jokingly) I can buy you the BMW you are dreaming about after that. She did not seem upset but our conversation died down from there. After the phone call ended, I checked my email and there was one from her. In the email, she said I made her mad by saying that the reason she wants me to get my car paid off is for me to get hers. but I did not say that. i really want to get her the car in the future once we are married. anyway she said she was disappointed that i think she is with me for material reasons. i replied and apologized saying i did not mean it that way. i called her 2x but no answer. Did i blow this one? or was she just over reacting?
birdie Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 you didn't blow it, she is way overreacting. if she sulks this much after something as innocent and silly as your comment then you'll have big problems in the future I reckon.
fray718 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t141087/ For some background please click on link to previous post. Fast forward..... we got back together and things are going well or were going well. She has been pretty much consistent and the change in her behaviour was very noticeable ever since. We made plans for the future and we exchange intimate words of what we trully felt for each other. Until I said something jokingly..... We were talking on the phone tonight. She was feeling down with her work situation and no prospects in finding a different one plus her MBA course work. We talked about our planned raod trip next month. I told her about my substantial raise in my salary from work. She said I should double up on car payments so I can get it paid off early. I said (jokingly) I can buy you the BMW you are dreaming about after that. She did not seem upset but our conversation died down from there. After the phone call ended, I checked my email and there was one from her. In the email, she said I made her mad by saying that the reason she wants me to get my car paid off is for me to get hers. but I did not say that. i really want to get her the car in the future once we are married. anyway she said she was disappointed that i think she is with me for material reasons. i replied and apologized saying i did not mean it that way. i called her 2x but no answer. Did i blow this one? or was she just over reacting? I read the previous thread and I must say that she thinks and acts very much like I do (read my posts and you'll see what I mean). She might be just a TAD more psychotic than me though haha. Well that being said, she's totally overreacting and honestly I have no idea why or how you even got back with her. It's prob best to avoid people like that. They can ruin your life if you let them.
Author pajamaman Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 Fray, read your posts and some of the replies. why did i take her back? i had her on no contact for a few days and she was persistent in bugging me for a few days. i thought i'd see how she will be this time around. plus, i really have feelings for her and enjoy being with her. there were numerous times in between that she would act up but i ignored them or just say, 'that is your problem to deal with' and the acting up would stop. frankly, i was delighted seeing the significant changes in her behavior. she was equally thankful and delighted for my sweetness and patience with her. as far as last night's incident ,i admit it was insensitive of me to say that considering her state of mind at that time. if she overreacted, that is her problem. but i still owe her an apology none the less which i did apologize numerous times. if she does not accept my apologies, that is her problem, too.
Author pajamaman Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 update: received 2 emails from her. one was saying not to come see her next week and she may be coming over next month since she already paid for plane tickets but not definites it is a wait and see. two was saying how she does need anyone who does things for her and see it as a favor and expecting something back and some recycling of previous issues. the last email stung a bit. i never expected anything back from her for all the things i SHARED with her. it was my way of showing my appreciation for her spending time with me. before i head back to my city after spending a few days with her in her city, i get her something. something small and hide it in a place where she can discover it in a day or two or i give her a clue where 'something special' is waiting for her to discover. it is my way of keeping the excitement and to show my appreciation of her spending time with me. nothing big. a coffee mug, a card, a box of chocolate, or a note saying how much she meant to me. i never once mentioned, hinted, or acted like she owed me something in return. i don't even demand when i can see her. i let her set the schedule since hers is more hectic than mine. i was happy to know she was happy and surprised. and now she is again down playing my acts of endearment. or worst. she is implying that they were bribes. i am mad right now. i blocked her from emailing me and deleted her from my cell. i can't stop her from calling or texting me but i can ignore and delete at once. and this is because i suggested in helping her to get her dream car once my car is paid off. i said that but the truth is, i will only do so once we are married.
fray718 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 You should only block her if you really mean to break up with her. If not, then instead of blocking her, you should communicate to her what you are saying here on this board. Let her know that you only mean well and hopefully she will see how immature and overly sensitive she's been. I think for me so far things are ok with my bf because my bf asks me if something is wrong and he communicates. He has never once blocked me. He tells me how he feels.
Balthazar Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 (edited) I read this post and your previous one. Basically, I am shocked you would want any sort of relationship with such a woman. I am not sure what you should do, but it is clear that your GF should continue doing what she is doing, since she has you biting the bait, hook, line, and reel!Damn, we've come a long way baby! Edited February 6, 2008 by Balthazar
EYECANDY000 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 She is totally over reacting. the only thing that I can piece together is that she has been in past relationships where she had to prove to her b/f"s that she was independant. And somehow you took a shot at her ego. As far as everything else I agree with the other poster and you shouldnt go through all that trouble of deleting her of your phone and blocking her messages if you know you will be back with her. This could just add more fuel to the fire. Instead talk to her and reassure her that it was only a joke . If she cant understand that you were joking and still holds a grugde then you two have problems
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