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My gf and i have been apart for about 3 months now and were togeterh for 2.5 years. Things werent perfect but she made me think it was real and i knew what i felt was real.

 

 

However i met one girl and have found myself being overly nice and doing things for her that i would usually do for my x. I was laying in bed tonight and realized im giving her everything i want to give to my x. We arent dating and are only friends. I have no intentions of dating but i find myself constantly trying to do things nice to her or something. Why is this? In bed i am wondering why i am pursuing or trying to give someone almost LOVE after this time. Is my mind just trying to replace or is my heart just trying to get rid of this stupid LOVE i have left. I had no idea i was doing this because for like 1.5 weeks i was DOING so much better no crying no sleepless nights. Then i thought i saw my X drive by and things today got wierd. LIke reality hit me all over again. Is what i am doing wrong? Or why am i doing it point blank? I feel like im some kind of sucker for love and trying to replace what i had with some chick or trying to give what i gave my X to this girl. WHAT THE HELL IS GOING On???????

I swear my miind is so weird. Things today have gone back to normal, and by normal i mean TERRIBLE feelings. Being in love alone, is the worst thing on this earth. WHEN CAN WE MEET AGAIN

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I think actually you are doing really well. I think that you are doing nice things for this girl because you are taking the first steps towards getting over your ex - not necessary starting a relationship with this girl, who as you say is just a friend, but trying those nice things out again. Don't put pressure on yourself to feel what you did for your ex - you're not going to that quickly, but if you can reach out to people, that's a brilliant first step. You're questioning yourself now because you are scared to let go of your ex in that way, and that's understandable - I think you should just do whatever you feel is right for you, but don't try and make yourself be 'OK moved on now' if you're not ready. I am so guilty of that myself, so I can really understand where you're coming from, but you have to fight it! You are going to be fine :)

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As long as you're not breaking the bank or adopting her children then, by all means - be a saint. There's absolutely nothing wrong with random (or non-random) acts of kindness. Fact is - being extra generous, being a big guy - a good egg - a George Bailey - Is a HUGE testament to the kind of person you are inside.

 

It means you still have a heart, dude... Yeah. Go with it. ;)

 

SF

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