Collegeguy87 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 So my girlfriend of 4 years and I decided to take a break from our relationship a little over 2 months ago. It was mainly initiated by her due to me not knowing if we were going to last forever. I always knew I loved her and let her know it everyday, but her not knowing if I was interested in marriage upset her. So I agreed that we might want to take a break and examine ourselves and what we want. For the first month we didn't contact each other too much, as we were trying to honor the "Break". I enjoyed the liberation and spent more time with friends and family. I know that she did the same. However starting about 2 weeks ago, I let her know that I had decided that I missed her terribly, and had gotten my priorities in line, and indeed do want to spend the rest of my life with her. Unfortunately for me, she said that she still needed more time to think about things. I also saw around this time that she has been talking via facebook to this guy (of course) and seems to have made plans to have him come over to her place and watch movies and what not. During our talk I said that I had fears that she was not "taking a break" but dumping me to test the waters. She swears that they are simply friends and not to worry, so I will try to do so. During our big talk she said that she needed more time to find herself as an individual. She claims that she loves me still, but just not sure in what way anymore. Of course this tears me apart on the inside and causes more pain than I can describe. I kick myself for letting her go, but it really wasn't up to me I suppose. Now that I am ready to give her the commitment she said she always wanted, she says she needs more time. I know you all are not mind readers, but do you feel that there is any chance for us coming back together and her accepting my commitment? How should I act/say to convince her to come back to me. I have already given her over 2 months, and feel that waiting much longer will only leave me alone and heartbroken while she forgets me while dangling the hope of getting back together in front of me. I also feel kind of cheated because this is obviously not a "break" but a "break-up". Thought? Thanks!
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