cfield1972 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 My ex and I dated for about 3 months - she was coming out of a bad relationship where she was pretty miserable. We had a lot of chemistry and she told me she was in love with me and wanted a future with me. We had so much fun together and everthing seemed to fit. Best of all, we were friends and could talk to one another about things. After her ex found out she was seeing someone, he pulled out all the stops to get her back and after a lot of agony, she went back to him. It hurt me a lot and we went through a month or so where we were talking, seeing one another, etc. She said it was hard for her to be away from me and that she missed me so much. She also said she was scared to take a chance on us and that he was something familiar but that she could be making the biggest mistake of her life. For a while I called her and kept trying to talk to her about things and I would get mixed messages. I finally got tired of everything, told her that I didn't apprecitae being used by her and I haven't contacted her in 3 weeks. Yesterday she called me and left a message that she wanted to see how I was and say hi. I will not call her back because I doubt anything has changed and I know it will just hurt me. I just don't understand why she called me. It seems to me that she would be glad that I finally accepted her decision and let her go. Can anyone help me understand? I'm not going to call her no matter what - I just don't get it. I have been so down about all of this and felt like I was starting to feel better when she calls. It's very frustrating. Thanks to anyone who can shed some light.
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 My ex and I dated for about 3 months - she was coming out of a bad relationship where she was pretty miserable. We had a lot of chemistry and she told me she was in love with me and wanted a future with me. We had so much fun together and everthing seemed to fit. Best of all, we were friends and could talk to one another about things. After her ex found out she was seeing someone, he pulled out all the stops to get her back and after a lot of agony, she went back to him. It hurt me a lot and we went through a month or so where we were talking, seeing one another, etc. She said it was hard for her to be away from me and that she missed me so much. She also said she was scared to take a chance on us and that he was something familiar but that she could be making the biggest mistake of her life. For a while I called her and kept trying to talk to her about things and I would get mixed messages. I finally got tired of everything, told her that I didn't apprecitae being used by her and I haven't contacted her in 3 weeks. Yesterday she called me and left a message that she wanted to see how I was and say hi. I will not call her back because I doubt anything has changed and I know it will just hurt me. I just don't understand why she called me. It seems to me that she would be glad that I finally accepted her decision and let her go. Can anyone help me understand? I'm not going to call her no matter what - I just don't get it. I have been so down about all of this and felt like I was starting to feel better when she calls. It's very frustrating. Thanks to anyone who can shed some light. Your right, she's stupid. You keep it moving. Whether or not this guy whoshe was dating was abusive. If she was she went back to him. She wasnt really serious, she has no idea of loyalty. Keep NC!
mistie03 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 It sounds like things are working out with her ex that she went back to.
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