Rowen Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 My ex just asked me to go on a trip with her after she graduates next month. She wants to go exactly at the year point of when we met last year... third week of march. Well for those who had been following my story. My ex broke up with me 4 nad a half months ago. We've hung out a few times since. Shes been flirting, and hinting at getting back together. We had tentative plans to go out for dinner this week .. she came online today and asked if I would go on a trip to california with her in march. I'm a bit struck here right now... she said she wants to get together this weekend to "map it out" Now... I see a definite opening here for me.. i need people to keep me down to level here. I have these nervous feelings, butterflies and uncertain feelings right now. Beucase I can see that this is on the cusp of getting back together, yet I do not want to screw this up!
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Rowen - You want her back? If you do, then be yourself. She's seen it before and wants you so stick with the best subject matter that you know, YOU. Also, be more thoughtful and complimentary towards her while on vacation. It will make her feel like a princess which in turn will have you be treated like a KING.
CalamitousJane Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I would treat it pretty much the same as if someone I just met asked me to go somewhere in March. Even if I were wildly attracted to the person I would take it VERY slowly, and get a good idea about the person's capabilities and intentions BEFORE buying any tickets. ps. You must be out of your mind with excitement!
Author Rowen Posted February 8, 2008 Author Posted February 8, 2008 Well we are still supposed to get together this weekend .. I think... Well, we had talked briefly over the weeek. Today she came online and was very upbeat talking to me. I was about to ask her if she still wanted to talk about our trip and get together this weekend and she didnt answer. She was online but didnt answer. She said she didnt get some of my messages. An hour went by , she was still online but I was not getting any of her messages. So i went offline for 1 minute, came back and she was offline as well. I sent her a text asking her whatr happened and called her, it went straight to voice mail. Now I'm panicking of course. Thinking she's ignoring me for some reason. I need to believe this is just her phone messing up or soemthing. Ive done all I can and if I did anymore, It would be weird. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
CaliGuy Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Well we are still supposed to get together this weekend .. I think... Well, we had talked briefly over the weeek. Today she came online and was very upbeat talking to me. I was about to ask her if she still wanted to talk about our trip and get together this weekend and she didnt answer. She was online but didnt answer. She said she didnt get some of my messages. An hour went by , she was still online but I was not getting any of her messages. So i went offline for 1 minute, came back and she was offline as well. I sent her a text asking her whatr happened and called her, it went straight to voice mail. Now I'm panicking of course. Thinking she's ignoring me for some reason. I need to believe this is just her phone messing up or soemthing. Ive done all I can and if I did anymore, It would be weird. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Personally I say don't go on the trip, don't make plans with her and don't wait around for her or act too needy or clingy. Go hang out with friends. Get busy! Create a life for yourself. She broke it off with you, it's HER that needs to do the work to earn you back, not the other way around. Cheers.
Author Rowen Posted February 9, 2008 Author Posted February 9, 2008 Probably just me being paranoid but I'm being paranoid. She called me on the wway back from work today to say she would like to hang out on sunday. Saying she was hanging out with her best friend tonight and some friends in some suburd of Vancouver. Kinda weird.. so I facebook of course... and I see she recently added two guys from a school in that suburb and theres some house party it looks like shes going to or something. Ugh. I hate facebook and now my mind is running rampant.... and im thinking everything bad out of this. To boot, the dude she just added put himself as singl... ughh Then we talked right when i got back on msn, then it started to EFF up again and we werent getting each others messages.. ack.. so i called her and being pissed off i said sunday may not work and that if I had been able to get through to her yesterday , that saturday would have been the best day. I hate this **** Yet she says she wants to get together to discuss our trip...
s_n_d Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 CaliGuy is right. She needs to earn it this time around.
norajane Posted February 9, 2008 Posted February 9, 2008 So, why does she want you to go on this trip? No, forget your 'getting back together' fantasy, think about why she might want this. Do you have money, so you can pay for a flight and vacation whereas all her other friends are broke? Are her friends unable to take time off in March? What will you do in California? Does she need a guy on her arm when she gets to California for some reason?
Author Rowen Posted February 9, 2008 Author Posted February 9, 2008 So, why does she want you to go on this trip? No, forget your 'getting back together' fantasy, think about why she might want this. Do you have money, so you can pay for a flight and vacation whereas all her other friends are broke? Are her friends unable to take time off in March? What will you do in California? Does she need a guy on her arm when she gets to California for some reason? Do I have money? haha.. lets just put it this way. I make 12 dollars an hour, live on my own in one of the most expensive cities in North America, and pay for my own schooling. Hell no. It wouldn't be a flight, we would be driving down there. My parents are going to cuba for 2 weeks and are lending me their car. As for the trip and her just wanting me for that.. well she was making advances far before I told her about getting the car. And if we go on the trip, she's paying half. She lives at home and has more money than me. We always talked about going on a trip together, but never got around to doing it. THe third week in march coincides with 1.Our 1 year since we met. 2.Her graduating.
Author Rowen Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Ugh.... we were supposed to hang out today. SHe has dissapeared..... so i called her at 4:30... it didnt ring for 30 seconds then went straight to voicemail., i left a brief message. Ughh so frustrating:(
CaliGuy Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 Ugh.... we were supposed to hang out today. SHe has dissapeared..... so i called her at 4:30... it didnt ring for 30 seconds then went straight to voicemail., i left a brief message. Ughh so frustrating:( Not making her earn much, are you? Her disappearing is because she knows you're standing there....waiting by the phone....for her call. Go buy the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" (Glover) then tell me what you see in yourself when you're through reading it, please. Cheers.
Author Rowen Posted February 11, 2008 Author Posted February 11, 2008 Not making her earn much, are you? Her disappearing is because she knows you're standing there....waiting by the phone....for her call. Go buy the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy" (Glover) then tell me what you see in yourself when you're through reading it, please. Cheers. I think there are two options. 1. I kind of told her off on friday about sunday. Saying saturday would have worked better if she had got through to me the day earlier. Anyway.. i know for a fact her blackberry is having problems recieving texts and calls. I read up on it, and it's really common rightnow. She told me it's messed up.
CaliGuy Posted February 11, 2008 Posted February 11, 2008 I think there are two options. 1. I kind of told her off on friday about sunday. Saying saturday would have worked better if she had got through to me the day earlier. Anyway.. i know for a fact her blackberry is having problems recieving texts and calls. I read up on it, and it's really common rightnow. She told me it's messed up. Excuses. You're making them for her and for yourself. Strong, confident men don't need to "tell someone off." When they feel they're being taken advantage of or taken for granted they simply remove those people from their lives. Read the book I recommended. It will help you see things in a clearer perspective.
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