hayati Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 If you have an ex and they have been ignoring you- they pretty much think you're waiting for them! So is it pointless to tell them goodbye and tell them ur moving on with or without them? I think this may give me some closure, I dunno for how long, but any advice?
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Yes, it's pointless. Completely pointless. It's like telling someone on this board that you have "put them on ignore." It's - plain and simple - attention-seeking behaviour. If you want to move on, then do it. You don't have to declare anything, except to yourself. Good luck.
Citizen Erased Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Yes, it's pointless. Completely pointless. It's like telling someone on this board that you have "put them on ignore." It's - plain and simple - attention-seeking behaviour. If you want to move on, then do it. You don't have to declare anything, except to yourself. Good luck. Someone put you on ignore Nemo?
prisonbreak Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I sent that letter and got a response from him crying. He wanted me to come over so we could talk. I did. But nothing changed. So I did get a response, but it didn't change things between us. So, yes it's pointless. If they want you back you don't need to do anything, they know your #
Nemo Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Someone put you on ignore Nemo? At least you're still reading me, darlin.
ninjacookies Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I actually fell victim to violating the NC rule and emailed my ex about 1 month after the breakup. Well, she called me back, nothing seemed to change, and we were both just glad to both have respect for each other. Then 4 days later she called me back again flirting with me and sending me a love song via text message. So in essence, I dunno....I regret doing it. Because if anything, it just confuses feelings and leads to more pain and anguish...when you could have been continually progressing in a new start.
PinkRibbon Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I don't know if it is pointless. I emailed the ex and nothing happend but getting put down. But if reaffirmed what I already knew. There is no hope and he really is a mean man.
princ3ss06 Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 Just make sure you dont initiate a break-up via email. I learnt it the hard way..am still nursing a broken heart from having sent out that email. Sigh One can only attain closure when both are cool enough to look at each other in the eye and chat and laugh at the past with no hard feelings.
tonyeltiger Posted March 2, 2008 Posted March 2, 2008 THe worst part about all the e-mails me and my ex sent to each other about the breakup and whatnot is that I save them and read them all multiple times throughout the day. Won't do me any good at all I know, but there you go. I do save the e-mails I've sent to her. THis helps me keep NC becasue I can see right in front of me exactly what the last things I have said to her are. And I am pretty satisfied with my last words. I would love to have more words, but once again, the balls in her court really.
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