Aboohoo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Well i was doing well, really well i went a whole week of nc but i had to call him tonight to talk over finances (i need my deposit back). He was so cold and untalkative on the phone and the more he was like that the more i felt i had to keep talking (stupid i know) i mentioned how ill be around next week to collect the rest of my stuff and he had seemed to 'forgotten'! - he was keen for me to come around. Again, i kept talking, going on about general crap and he was clearly disinterested! He was such a bas@*rd, made me feel so angry but mostly i was angry at myself as i came across as needy and helpless again! I knew i played right into his hands and it was clear that he no longer cared about me AT ALL! He's got his new 'internet' girlfriend now, im yesterdays news! Cant believe he's treated me this waay after 3 years together - i gave him everything and he just took until 'someone else better came along!' So after this horrible conversation i messaged him to say i will be coming down on thursday now to get all my stuff as i want to move on from all this - i was really firm in the message and he hasnt replied - why do I feel bad after sending this when HE was the one who acted all cold on the phone and 'emotionally cheated' on me with this new girl! So in conclusion after thursday i will no longer be calling / texting/ messaging him its purely no contact all the way - i dont need all this in my life! I believe in karma - what goes around comes around - this is a believe im holding onto! Sorry guys to keep going on but im so hurt and angry by his actions - i think he hates me and wants me out of his life altogether! Its bad for me at the moment as ive had to leave everything behind - home, job, friends etc... and he's just carried on. I cant find a job and so im struggling - he's on my mind 24/7 but im moving in a month into a great new area with my best friend and i know this will be the start of a new exciting chapter in my life! Why does he still have this 'power' over me?! How can he treat me like this? Any pieces of advice? Thanks - you guys keep me sane! xxx
Author Aboohoo Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Sorry i meant he WASN'T keen for me to come around!
curiousnycgirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I don't understand why did you have to leave everything behind? He has this power because you have not given yourself time to heal. You were likely hoping he would tell you he misses you and wants you back. You need to forget that, get your stuff and stop all contact. I know it sux and I feel very badly for you - but time will heal.
Author Aboohoo Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Dont know why i left - think it was because i was able to move back with my mum but looking back i guess its just another example of me doing everything and him nothing! You are right as soon as ive got my stuff thats it and i mean it - ill be leaving my bank details so he can us put the money he owes me into my account. I understand i dont need him anymore - its just hard getting through this 'limbo' stage.
Always Wrong Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Stop pussyfooting around with him. Tell the jerk you are coming for your things and there are two ways it can happen. The first being as an adult woman who's separating with her ex... the second being with a county sherrif. If he doesn't willingly give you your things, then he has possesion of property that doesn't belong to him.... period. I don't understand people who do that. It's not right. Really, you don't have to even tell him. Go file a police report. They'll get your stuff if it's of a value that would constitute a felony. At least in most states they don't let you keep another persons belongings. If you were in Arizona, you could strap your gun on and pay him a visit, really.
Always Wrong Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Oh no! Don't leave your bank account details! Are you nuts?
Author Aboohoo Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Thank you Alwaywrong that put a smile on my face - unfortunately i live in the uk! He doesnt mind me getting my stuff, he doesnt want to keep it - its just me he doesnt want to see! - i think he feels guilty around me, so he should the git! Like you said i need to stop pussyfooting around him - im far too nice but that will stop, i promise myself that but at the same time i dont want to be brought down to his level - im bet than that!
Always Wrong Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 (edited) I'm sorry, I didn't mean to call you nuts. That was very rude of me. Oh poo, I try to be helpful and say too much. I hope things go as you need them to. The relocation sounds like a good new start on things. Edited February 5, 2008 by Always Wrong addition
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