BlondeA-Bomb Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I'm not going to lie... I feel crazy just for starting an account and making an initial post here, but in reality, there are only so many times you can try to explain your plight to your roommate and friends before it all falls on deaf ears, so here it goes. Basically, I'm frustrated with the romantic scene at my school. I come from a small school where I attended K-12 and now I'm a sophomore at a very small liberal arts college. Although I'm more than 1,000 miles from home, things are starting the stagnate in the same way they did there. In my lifetime, I'd say I've had five boyfriends, three of whom were relatively serious. I only state this to explain that I don't consider myself an outcast/social leper/unworthy. In fact, since coming to college, I've been on a constant quest to find my interests, my true personality, and the things that make me happy. Unfortunately, in this veritable orgy of self-love, I've found no outside love. That is, from guys. I consider myself well-rounded, humorous and hard-working. I party some on the weekends, but it's never been my style to go totally wild or to be something I'm not. I'm easy to talk to, but I don't usually start conversations, especially at parties or in large social situations; I don't generally consider this a detriment, either. From everything I've read, my situation is the recipe for miracles in the romantic world, but I see nothing happening around me. I've always been relatively open and willing to go after a guy if I deem him worthy of my ongoing affections, but I've learned the lesson that if he doesn't come to me first it's because he's not interested. I know that's not always the case, but it's the way I've found things to be. In summation, my real question is: am I just crazy? Is there some shy guy waiting out there across campus for me to fall madly in love with him? Or is there some big secret to which I haven't yet been made privy?
Lucky555 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Whats the guy ratio at your school. When i lived on campus the ratio was 10 girls to every guy. Thats a lot of competition and most guys just wanted the college experience with girls, nothing serious. I moved off campus and found that i met guys on my own. However, none of these relationships have lasted. My friends have boyfriends that go to different colleges! Maybe try to go to a party or gathering at another college? Online dating? Hey it might work and at least to get to know someone. There are attractive guys at my school but my school is primarily health majors which means they are studying and unless i am in their "group" then i will basically never see them, talk to them, or associate with them...because they are hermits. BUT THEY ARE SO attractive and i am too shy to talk to them. Another thing is they are not looking because most of them have girlfriends who go to another college and they tend to just study and hang out with them..of course the occasional party. I myself am not a party person either...Do u think any of your friends have guy friends that could help? I too believe if the guy is interested he will approach, thats how i always have seen and learned too.
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