MzConfused Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 ok so this will be pretty long to include all the details. I'm 21 years old. I was in a 4 year relationship in which I was suppose to get married but I called it off a month ago and move back to my home town. One of the guys starting paying more attention to me like calling and sending txt messages in the morning. He's 22. He was dating my classmate for 7 years and was supposed to marry her but he called it off also, he said he could never marry her. That was 7 months ago, but he was still seeing her till now. So he started taking me out at night just to talk about things(Nothing Physical) because I respected the fact he had a girlfriend. He told me things like I feel I can be happy with you because we had similiar interest in things and got along soo well. About a few days later he broke up with his girlfriend. That weekend.. he took me out to a few of his friends homes.. it went from *Hi this my friend* to *Hi this is my new girlfriend* I was like wow. He didnt even discuss this with me. Anywho, we began dating more and I stayed at his house everyday and night. He always loved to cuddle with me and kiss me on my forehead. One night he told me he loved me(After about two weeks together) I told him I love you to. His parents love me and his friends were happy to see him so happy again. His father told me that the day he met me he hadnt seen his son that happy in years and that he was glowing. Ok, the problem now is. We arent together anymore. He got angry one day when I was on the phone with my ex about trying to get my things back, so he dropped me off at my moms house. Later that day I went to his house to pick up my things. He got even more angry. But he told me when I straighten everything out, to come back to him. I talked to him yesterday and he said that he doesnt ever want to be with me. I'm lost at why he's saying this now. He was so in love with me and soo caring about me.. I know I wasnt just a rebound for him. He introduced me to his whole family. He told me stuff like I dont ever want to lose you, dont ever leave me. He told his father that it was unfair the he still had feelings for his ex but he was with me. I guess like he couldnt fully give me his heart when she still held a part of it. He left her because she disrespected his family and him in many ways and never appreciated anything they did for her. I'm lost... is he just trying to push me away so I dont get hurt while he sorts threw his mess or does he totally hate me even though he told me he never wanted to lose me?? Please reply with any feedback.. Im losing my mind over this.
Geishawhelk Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Understand this: For some unfathomable reason, many men (although not all!) find it very difficult to progress emotionally beyond the age of 7. Or 9 if you're lucky. They remain child-ish (not child-like) and at age 22 this young man is still that. Young. I hate to say it, but I would enjoy just having a good time and revelling in your youth. You are way too young to be considering a committed, permanent relationship, or even marriage. Seriously. I personally feel that you should shelve any ideas of permanence, and concentrate on living your young life. I don't mean irresponsibly, or leaping from bed to bed.... I'm sure you wouldn't do that.... what I mean is, don't sweat it. Let it go, try to put it down to experience (have a little weep if you must!) and enjoy being a young, carefree and lively lady. Have some fun, make loads of new friends, and just adjust to being single, free and fun-loving! Time enough (trust me on this one!) to think about going steady, getting serious and knuckling down to heavy relationship stuff later. Now turn off your computer, put on some lippy, ring a girlfriend and hit the town...!!
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