Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 This thread just goes to show you. You really need to explain the game to your GF. Once they get the concept of "downs", it really starts to make sense. Why is it so hard to explain that concept to most women? I sometimes call them "chances" but it doesn't help. "Honey, it's 3rd chance and 3". Honey? Excellent advice. Explain the game, and she'll start to understand just how important it is. Life and death, really.
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I get pissed off at her because this is probably the greatest moment of my life since the 1999 super bowl. It's amazing, isn't it. Anyone other than a complete social retard would totally "get" that this is a huge deal to you. And then she throws a tantrum because you aren't catering to her every whim. WTF??!! She is an attention-seeker, and needs to grow up.
Trialbyfire Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 All the hurry up and wait time for football, makes it boring for me, so I can relate to your g/f. I also understand the game but not some of the more complex plays by sight. I'm the same way with hockey. If it's the playoffs or the finals, get out of my face unless you want to discuss what's happening, as it's happening... Having said that, she does need to understand that there are times you don't mess with a guy or even a female friend, for that matter. It sounds like she's being a whiny little baby who's PMSing all over you.
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Having said that, she does need to understand that there are times you don't mess with a guy or even a female friend, for that matter. It sounds like she's being a whiny little baby who's PMSing all over you. You nailed it, baby!!!!!
whichwayisup Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Not fixing the internet RIGHT WHEN SHE NEEDS IT during the end of the Superbowl isn't worth her throwing a s*it fit over. Uhhmm, was she playing on the net? Or was she working on an assignment that had a deadline that had to be emailed in by a certain time? Still no reason for her to freak out.. Anyway, you two need to set some boundries and rules, respect eachother and learn to communicate calmly, instead of reacting like on Sunday. You both handled it the wrong way and that made the situation itself worse. I'm the same way with hockey. Me too. My H and I would never pull that crap on eachother! He wouldn't put up with it and neither would I!
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Uhhmm, was she playing on the net? Good point. She was probably just playing some stupid online game.
Citizen Erased Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Whilst I find her behaviour immature and quite rude, the way you are speaking about her disgusts me. I don't swear that much when it comes to people I hate, let alone someone I love. If you both throw a hissy fit over a game and the internet then I would imagine you have much bigger problems then outlined here. I understand that you find the game important, but don't make promises you don't intend on keeping. I would imagine she is more pissed about that then anything else. But you need to call her out on the using sex to be a bitch thing. I cannot believe she did that.
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 But you need to call her out on the using sex to be a bitch thing. I cannot believe she did that. It's a lot more common than you think.
Citizen Erased Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 It's a lot more common than you think. Perhaps, but not in the way she did it. Playing mind games is just not on in my book. Thank God I don't have these issues. I'm more into Football then he is tho, maybe that is why?
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Thank God I don't have these issues. I'm more into Football then he is tho, maybe that is why? Touchdown!!!!! I mean, TRY!!!!!
LoveLace Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Rams fan...same here Interrupting a guy and his sports is a big no-no. Requesting attention during this time, big no-no. But she probably just didn't realize how important it is to you. Instead she chose to see it as the game being more important to you than she is. And at that moment, yes that was true. The lap top problem was something that could wait but she didn't understand why. Remind her, you both have your things that your passionate about, things that seperate you as individuals, and this is only healthy. You need your seperate times to enjoy these things. Remind her, she has her figure skating and you have your sports. These are the times to support each other, not a good time for having any other expectations. Your not the only guy to get frustrated by something like this, believe that. I hate to say make rules, but establish one that says your sports are your time to yourself and that's it...then let her make a "rule" of her own to balance it out.
Walk Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 When I was younger, I was with a guy who was really into football. I didn't get it. I understand the rules, the plays, etc. I didn't understand why it was okay for him to get 4 hours every sunday where I had to cow-tow to his wishes, but when I wanted to do something for 4 hours, he would demand I include him and cater to his likes and dislikes. It was NEVER equal. He got. I gave. I started throwing hissy fits. I guess what I'm saying is, this little incident goes so much deeper then one super bowl game, and an internet connection. If you can't figure it out, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship, 'cause obviously you two aren't talking about what the problems are. My relationship now, if he wants 4 hours of any day to do something I might think of as boring, or inane, I wish him all the happiness he can get out of his hobby. Because I know I'll get the time I want to do the things I want to do, without him bytching and moaning about how boring and inane it is. Its a trade off, and we both win. So how often do you allow your gf to do things she really wants to do, without you bytching and complaining about it? Or do you drag her down like she drags you down?
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I think you're projecting, Walk. This is a clear-cut case of a girl gone wild.
Citizen Erased Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Touchdown!!!!! I mean, TRY!!!!! Yes, no touchdown's for us over here. May I ask why in NFL it is called a touchdown when you don't actually have to ground the ball, just get it over the tryline (or whatever it is called, my knowledge of American football is very limited ). Very odd. I wonder how long NFL players would last playing Rugby Union or League
Walk Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I think you're projecting, Walk. This is a clear-cut case of a girl gone wild. Oh? Is that because he thinks she's a spoiled brat and described her in such a light? Or because you want her to be a one dimensional figure?
Saxis Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Whatcha wanna bet that if it wasn't about fixing the internet, but instead she was butt nekkid sprawled out on the kitchen table, screaming for him to take her now, it wouldn't have been a problem? Priorities....
tanbark813 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 May I ask why in NFL it is called a touchdown when you don't actually have to ground the ball I believe the rule used to be you had to touch both feet inside the endzone for it to count and the rules have since changed. But I'm not much of a sports fan so don't quote me on that. But if a girl interrupted me during the World Series of Poker when it was head's up and one guy was all in then she'd be entering a world of pain.
Walk Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Nemo, the OP posted 3 times, with no mention of why she needed the internet connection. That was a supposition by another member that this girl was merely playing internet games. (oh wait, that was you jumping to conclusions) Nor did the OP mention what else has been occuring in the relationship. Or his actions toward his gf out side of the super bowl.
Nemo Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 May I ask why in NFL it is called a touchdown when you don't actually have to ground the ball, Why is it called a "home run," when most players just jog? Only in America. I think they just stole the rugby term, and forgot to change it. Besides, it sounds cool.
BlueHaiku Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 My first thought in reading your initial post was this: First off, try not to get ticked at her for interrupting the Super Bowl - maybe she honestly doesn't know how exciting it is for her. Explain quickly but clearly that this is an important moment for you, and you will certainly help her later (don't say 30 seconds unless you are willing to help her in 30 seconds even IF the Super Bowl isn't over). If you are clear about how important it is to you, she will understand (unless she's a selfish b****). Then I read about her evening behavior and my thought is this: She sounds like a selfish b****, and a needlessly cruel one at that. Find someone who knows how to be a grown up.
BUENG1 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 When I was younger, I was with a guy who was really into football. I didn't get it. I understand the rules, the plays, etc. I didn't understand why it was okay for him to get 4 hours every sunday where I had to cow-tow to his wishes, but when I wanted to do something for 4 hours, he would demand I include him and cater to his likes and dislikes. It was NEVER equal. He got. I gave. I started throwing hissy fits. I guess what I'm saying is, this little incident goes so much deeper then one super bowl game, and an internet connection. If you can't figure it out, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship, 'cause obviously you two aren't talking about what the problems are. My relationship now, if he wants 4 hours of any day to do something I might think of as boring, or inane, I wish him all the happiness he can get out of his hobby. Because I know I'll get the time I want to do the things I want to do, without him bytching and moaning about how boring and inane it is. Its a trade off, and we both win. So how often do you allow your gf to do things she really wants to do, without you bytching and complaining about it? Or do you drag her down like she drags you down? I disagree. I think people who have problems in relationships should simply say what their problems are instead of flipping out and complaining about random things with little importance. And then expecting the other person to figure out what the real problem is.
Walk Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I disagree. I think people who have problems in relationships should simply say what their problems are instead of flipping out and complaining about random things with little importance. And then expecting the other person to figure out what the real problem is. That was my point. I don't think those two are talking about the problems at all, nor do I believe either of them even understand what the problem is. And it's not just about football, or internet connections.
Replicant Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I'm the same way with hockey. If it's the playoffs or the finals, get out of my face unless you want to discuss what's happening, as it's happening... Funny thing is i think with most women once the playoff season hits, they become turned onto hockey like that and react as mentioned above ^^^ especially if Canadian! Now as for football being more stop and go and more strategic plays, i think that drives women into various states of being 'annoyed' by it. Leading to a general dislike of the game and driven to...potential superbowl sabotage as seen in the OP's comments. Which i'm sure happened in many households across North America so maybe that will offer some level of relief
Trimmer Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 That was my point. I don't think those two are talking about the problems at all, nor do I believe either of them even understand what the problem is. And it's not just about football, or internet connections. I agree. How does a pretty simple interaction between two adults start immediately at "My gf on her laptop starts b*tchin at me that the internet won't work...", then to "shut the f**k up and relax", then to "come have sex... no, PSYCH! just want you to know how it feels..." There's a deeper pathology here; the superbowl and internet connections are only the very tips of the turds sticking up above the water in the toilet bowl, stinking the place up, but there's lots more down below.
Nemo Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 ; the superbowl and internet connections are only the very tips of the turds sticking up above the water in the toilet bowl, stinking the place up, but there's lots more down below. When he said she dumped on him, I don't think it was meant to be taken literally. I think the girlfriend has Asperger's.
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