cassano203 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 (edited) Long time reader and i believe its my 1st time posting a thread. So i'm watching the last minute of the game and am on pins and needles just praying to God to show his mercy on me and grant the G-men a win to take away from the pain of the 2002 Superbowl(I'm a Rams fan). My gf on her laptop starts b*tchin at me that the internet won't work and asks if i can fix it. I don't answer her and she keeps b*tchin, so i just say remind me in 30 seconds-1min, basically after the game. The game ends and I am getting calls and calling everyone i know to celebrate on the phone. My girl gets peeved cos i'm on the phone and watching the post game instead of helping her "fix" the internet. I get pissed off at her because this is probably the greatest moment of my life since the 1999 super bowl. I'm just trying to enjoy the moment like most guys across America that don't reside in the Bahstin Mahss area and its surrounding cities. She refuses to understand that and gets pissed off cos i said I would get to it in 30 secs to 1min. This leads to a row and I just wanna know what you guys would have done in that situation. This girl doesnt care about sports except for figure skating and thats fine with me, but i'm a rabid sports fan and there's nothing i hate more than being disturbed when i'm focused on my teams game or any good game. I happen to be with a girl that doesnt respect that. I feel she should have just shut the F&*K up and relaxed till I was done with the post game and all that. I shouldnt have had to tell her. What would y'all do if your girl fails to understand the importance of certain games to you or the viewing of said games and what do you ladies think? Thanks I should also mention she was currently at "that time of the month" but i don't feel that should be an excuse for throwing a tantrum like that. Edited February 5, 2008 by cassano203 mistake
dutchie Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 My bf is realllllllllly into sports too. I am ok with it, even though I am not really into sports, only baseball. However, I do find it annoying sometimes when everything is all about sports. It gets so bad that our weekend plans revolve around which games are on or whatever. Kinda annoying. Maybe that is what was up her butt. But I agree that from what you posted, she may have overreacted a little. I am sure it will blow over. And I find it highly irritating when guys blame stuff on "the time of the month." That is just a cop out excuse. It is always so much easier to say, well she's just being a b1tch!, rather than both of you taking responsibility for poor behavior.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Hey I am a girl - and I would have told her to shut the F up. Frankly if she couldn't enjoy the game, then she should have at least bowed out and let you enjoy it in peace. WTF is up with what she wanted at that moment taking priority over what you wanted at that moment. Sure at times that's ok - but come on during the superbowl?! I'm sorry but if she can't understand that - then she is really self centered, or simply living under a rock. Feel free to PM me if you want me to personally explain to her the facts of life - to tell the truth I am so full of righteous indignation for you right now I am speechless. UGH women like this give the rest of us a bad name! Hey I'm not a baseball fan - in fact it bores me to tears - but my b/f wanted to invite all his friends to watch the world series on my h/d 4'X8' screen - so of course I said yes, threw a party and did NOT bother them during the game for anything. And no I am not a Giants fan - I am a Jet fan - but come on it was against the Patriots!!!!!
dutchie Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 See, I agree, curious, even though I am not a sports fan per say. I like to have people over to watch some games because it is fun to have a party!
Cobra_X30 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I should also mention she was currently at "that time of the month" but i don't feel that should be an excuse for throwing a tantrum like that. Couple items to note. Don't make promises that you are not planning to keep. If you say after the game... live up to your promise. How long does it take to fix your internet anyway? For me that's like a 2 minute fix... and I could do it while I'm on the phone. Seriously, I'd say you owe someone an apology.
Author cassano203 Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Couple items to note. Don't make promises that you are not planning to keep. If you say after the game... live up to your promise. How long does it take to fix your internet anyway? For me that's like a 2 minute fix... and I could do it while I'm on the phone. Seriously, I'd say you owe someone an apology. No doubt it doesnt take a long time but c'mon, its not like its some regular game i'm watching. Sure i said i'd fix it after the game but its not like i forgot or i went on to go read a book or something. I was caught up in the moment after the game calling friends and family but she felt the need to bring down my high. Seriously We've had so much crap go down in the past year that I might have to start another thread. We've been together 4 years, she's 24 and i'm 25. This is what happened later that night. She asked me to come to bed w/ her and then stated she wanted to get it on. Initially i refused cos i was still a bit ticked off. But then the horndog in me came out and I said lets do this. She then basically told me "psyche, i just wanted you to remember this feeling"!!! I'm thinking okay, wtf. Thats the way to make your man find some $5 whore for a quick shag . Doing or saying crap like that. wow. Has that ever happened to any of you guys? Your gal telling you lets go do it and then telling you nah, I just wanted to mess with you. lovely stuff.
Author cassano203 Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 Hey I am a girl - and I would have told her to shut the F up. Frankly if she couldn't enjoy the game, then she should have at least bowed out and let you enjoy it in peace. WTF is up with what she wanted at that moment taking priority over what you wanted at that moment. Sure at times that's ok - but come on during the superbowl?! I'm sorry but if she can't understand that - then she is really self centered, or simply living under a rock. Feel free to PM me if you want me to personally explain to her the facts of life - to tell the truth I am so full of righteous indignation for you right now I am speechless. UGH women like this give the rest of us a bad name! Hey I'm not a baseball fan - in fact it bores me to tears - but my b/f wanted to invite all his friends to watch the world series on my h/d 4'X8' screen - so of course I said yes, threw a party and did NOT bother them during the game for anything. And no I am not a Giants fan - I am a Jet fan - but come on it was against the Patriots!!!!! OMG do you have a sister!!
torranceshipman Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 omg she sounds like a loser - there's no WAY I'd put up with that. I mean c'mon, she s**ts all over your SuperBowl experience then rejects you in bed the SAME night....she sounds AWFUL!!! If some GUY did that to me he'd be gone the next day!!
blind_otter Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I'm going to go against the grain on this one and say - it was a football game. I watched it too, it was exciting...BUT... You promised to fix the internet after it was over. You did not follow through with your promise, instead you proceeded to chat on the phone to your friends - during which time you could have been fixing the internet. TBH you shouldn't have promised to fix the internet in 30 sec - 1 min. Sure she did pull a pretty immature prank on you by saying she was going to get it on and then taking it back. I think you were BOTH pretty off base.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 OMG do you have a sister!! I do but sorry she is more of a girlie and girl - there is no way she would have interrupted the superbowl, but she doesn't really get it.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I'm going to go against the grain on this one and say - it was a football game. I watched it too, it was exciting...BUT... You promised to fix the internet after it was over. You did not follow through with your promise, instead you proceeded to chat on the phone to your friends - during which time you could have been fixing the internet. TBH you shouldn't have promised to fix the internet in 30 sec - 1 min. Sure she did pull a pretty immature prank on you by saying she was going to get it on and then taking it back. I think you were BOTH pretty off base. I totally understand what others are saying that she asked, you said you would, and you didn't - but my point is why the heck did she ask during the superbowl?! Come on
Saxis Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I think you both sound a bit too immature to be in this relationship, let alone understand the give and take that it requires. Seems a little lacking on the communication side of things, and stuff like this will lead to an endless cycle of hurting each other. If you don't talk about the problems, you'll just stew about it and end up resenting each other.
Cobra_X30 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 No doubt it doesnt take a long time but c'mon, its not like its some regular game i'm watching. Sure i said i'd fix it after the game but its not like i forgot or i went on to go read a book or something. I was caught up in the moment after the game calling friends and family but she felt the need to bring down my high. Seriously We've had so much crap go down in the past year that I might have to start another thread. We've been together 4 years, she's 24 and i'm 25. This is what happened later that night. She asked me to come to bed w/ her and then stated she wanted to get it on. Initially i refused cos i was still a bit ticked off. But then the horndog in me came out and I said lets do this. She then basically told me "psyche, i just wanted you to remember this feeling"!!! I'm thinking okay, wtf. Thats the way to make your man find some $5 whore for a quick shag . Doing or saying crap like that. wow. Has that ever happened to any of you guys? Your gal telling you lets go do it and then telling you nah, I just wanted to mess with you. lovely stuff. LOL... she brought down your high? Seriously, I don't think her request changed the outcome of the game. Speaking of which... yes it IS the superbowl... but it's also still just a game. If she ruined your enjoyment of the game, it's because you let her. The point is that you failed to live up to a promise, and for that you need to apologize and admit fault. Now, her bedroom hi-jinx is unacceptable. If she does that again kick her out! Using sex as a form of emotional manipulation is not a good thing in any way.
wizer Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Your GF was being unreasonable to ask you to fix her laptop in the midst of the excitement following the biggest football game of the year. You should have said that you would get to it as soon as the excitement and enjoyment of watching the end of the game was over (which includes the post game wrap up of course).
allina Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 The only place you're wrong here is saying over and over that she was bitching which is rude to say about your gf. Other than that she was being childish and self centered, most people understand the importance of the Superbowl to a football fan.
torranceshipman Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 What the hell? It was the Superbowl - she could have waited for pete's sake. NOT cool. Dont you realise people wait the whole year for this! And did you not SEE the last few minutes of this yr's Superbowl? HArdly a time to take a moment to fix some internet connection that could clearly wait a while longer. He isnt immature for getting upset about this at ALL. This guy loves the SuperBowl and this only happens once a yr for a coupla hours and she couldnt even respect that! She's the immature attention seeking one out of the two of them!
blind_otter Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I stand by my original statment - they were both out of line. Knowing he would be busy after the superbowl he never should have promised to fix it in 30 sec - 1 min. period.
4givrnt4gtr Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Homefry, your girl doesnt get that its not JUST a game. Its never JUST a game with guys, no matter what sport it is. She is looking at it more in the "ughhh im not important to him" type of way, therefore the whole "b*ing" u talk about. Maybe u could explain to her that it means A LOT to you and that although you like her very much, this is YOUR time. If you let her know ull be right there after all the games and celebrations have passed, she will leave u alone. And no, despite rumors to the contrary, we dont "just" know. It takes a bit for us to figure all of u men's quirks. U can always give ur girl a hand with that though. Now...the whole "psyche!" thing....uhh yeah i dont know about that one. Probably retaliation from the game. Totally imature though. Sorry
torranceshipman Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Maybe he was going to help in just a minute, but then in the closing seconds of that game, look what happened! Amazing! Who'd have the thought the Giants'd pull it off in such amazing style, so close to the end...no fan could remove their eyes from THAT....is any sports fan really going to expect an ending like that OR be able to get up to fix some random problem that is not important and could wait a while longer when such a memorable play is happening! I think not! Its not just guys that love sport yknow...!!
EYECANDY000 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Seems like your g/f is a attention needer!!! I honestly dont know what to say because she was being very juvenile. I would have told her to just calm down and just wait a few secs. Well, you didn do that and she still flipped! Sounds like there is no reasoning with her Sorry I have no advice on this one! But the game was aweeeesome!!!!!!!!
wizer Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 This thread just goes to show you. You really need to explain the game to your GF. Once they get the concept of "downs", it really starts to make sense. Why is it so hard to explain that concept to most women? I sometimes call them "chances" but it doesn't help. "Honey, it's 3rd chance and 3". Honey?
Trimmer Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 This isn't just about this one incident with the Superbowl and her retaliation for it... Sure, I agree with the points above: you shouldn't have promised (only) one minute and not delivered, and she shouldn't have done the immature sex/retaliation thing. But it goes much deeper than this one incident: among other things, you guys suck at communication. You KNOW she doesn't "understand" how important sports are to you, yet you roll your eyes and act all sarcastic about the fact that she asked during the superbowl. How about: "Baby, these are the best and most important couple minutes of the year in all of sports - wanna come check it out with me, and I'll fix your internet when it's over?" Maybe she says no, but at least you've put out a vibe of sharing with her, attempting to include her, and trying to explain why you are not available... But I bet that's not your style, is it? Instead, inside you are boiling, and having to hold yourself back from saying "F*** OFF, bitch..." You think she doesn't get that vibe? This isn't just about the superbowl, it seems like you guys have some anger and resentment that you aren't working out very productively. We've had so much crap go down in the past year that I might have to start another thread. Maybe you should do that. Even if she "understood" how important the superbowl was, I'm guessing you still find other ways to poke at each other when you are angry, and I bet there are other non-sports-related times that you feel like saying "f*** off" and think of her as a rude bitch, aren't there?
allina Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 This thread just goes to show you. You really need to explain the game to your GF. Once they get the concept of "downs", it really starts to make sense. Why is it so hard to explain that concept to most women? I sometimes call them "chances" but it doesn't help. "Honey, it's 3rd chance and 3". Honey? Uhm it's not that hard for women to understand a football game and you don't need to talk down to them by calling downs "chances". What woman allows you to talk to her like she's a child? :rolleyes:
Cobra_X30 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 (edited) Maybe he was going to help in just a minute, but then in the closing seconds of that game, look what happened! Amazing! Who'd have the thought the Giants'd pull it off in such amazing style, so close to the end...no fan could remove their eyes from THAT....is any sports fan really going to expect an ending like that OR be able to get up to fix some random problem that is not important and could wait a while longer when such a memorable play is happening! I think not! Its not just guys that love sport yknow...!! That's kind of the problem here. I love sports and I love the superbowl... but I'm not so wrapped up in myself that I can't understand that other people may think differently. Shoot, if we were talking about the Stanley Cup finals... would this be a different story? How about a Dog Show? Fact is the we don't know what she was doing on the internet, but it was keeping her entertained while the superbowl was going. When the internet went down she lost that. The lesson to be learned here is that we shouldnt be so selfishly absorbed in our own interests that we expect others to bow and scrape, and that when we make a promise... we should keep it. Basically, I'm picking up on the same vibe here as Trimmer! This is a communication issue! Edited February 5, 2008 by Cobra_X30
blind_otter Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 That's kind of the problem here. I love sports and I love the superbowl... but I'm not so wrapped up in myself that I can't understand that other people may think differently. Thank you! Great point.
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