a_torn_novagirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 (edited) I have a best friend who I thought would be in my life forever. I always had feelings for him, but I never thought he felt the same (i told him everyday). I recently found an old classmate, and we email each other daily. He is everything I always wanted, but he lives in Japan (he's in the navy). He wants to be with me, but he doesn't want to start a relationship with me so far away. When he gets back to the states, we're definitely hooking up. I recently met a guy who lives very close me, and he is head over heels for me. I adore him, but I don't think the feeling is mutual because I'm still stuck on the other guy. The guy in the navy and the other guy knows about each other, because I love to be honest. They both understand, and the guy in the navy told me to go out and find someone to be with. I was willing to wait for him, but he wants me to be happy. The guy who lives by me, wants to be in a relationship and he feels like I'm "wify" material. My best friend actually called me, and wanted to go out and I stood him up. He's not answering the phone, or returning my calls and I feel so bad. I have three guys in my life; the first one doesn't want to be with me (my best friend), the second one wants to be with me, but he can't handle a LDR, and the third one wants to be with me....right now. My heart is saying wait for the guy in the navy, because that's who I really want to be with. Can I actually wait 4 years for him to get out of the navy, without getting into a relationship? Edited February 5, 2008 by a_torn_novagirl
ryry7 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Why do you have to wait 4 years? Is Japan a 4 year tour these days? Whats so special about the place you live at? You need to figure out what you need, and it doesnt have to do with " right this second." If it does, pick the dude that lives closer to you. Is he in Japan waiting for you? Although the Navy might have taken him there, that doesnt particularily mean all other things are on hold for him. What about him? What does he need right now? I just told my GF Im going back to Kuwait, she doesnt particularily have to wait to see a whole year. Your Navy guy gets 30 days leave a year.. Plan a vacation together.. Or, if you have to have a man right now.. Then pick the other guy. BE SELFISH! They are just boyfriends.
Author a_torn_novagirl Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 He's coming home soon, but he will be in California, Washington, and then stationed in Virginia for awhile. To be honest there's nothing special about this state, and if he ask me to move to Virginia with him I'll say yes. I recently asked him to be in a LDR with me, but he didn't want to start a relationship off like that. He says he prefers to find a girl back home (meaning me), but I really don't know what he needs right now or even wants. We email each other daily, but the time difference is a bitch!!! He has always had a crush on me in high school, and he still feels the same way, so I know he wants to be with me. I think I might love this guy..... Thanks so much for you advice...your such a huge help.
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