Ehaze Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Alright, I'm 20, I have only dated a few girls, I have only been laid 1 time, and it was all because the girl wanted to, I was so shy (I still am), she pretty much told me how everything works / hopped on top of me... it made me so happy . Now my brothers wife wants to hook me up with her friend, They are like forcing me to go out on a double date kind of thing, I have a really hard time talking to girls that I know I am there for something more then a friend, BUT when I meet a girl on the street and we hit it off, I feel normal. SO what should I do? I am a weight lifter, so I have some nice muscles, I am kind of chubby, not fat you can say HUSKY . She is slightly chubby, brown hair, green eyes, about 5',9". I really don't care about looks as much as I once did, before if a chubby girl talked to me ide just roll my eyes and tell her NO THANKS, but since I have been out of high school I've realized most of the girls I talked to / liked are VERY shallow. At my college I've noticed that allot of the older women like me, WITH kids, they come up to me and ask me out... its creepy... But yea, sorry for going off the wall there. SHE if very very very very independent, she moved out when she was 18, she payed for herself to get through college, it is very intimidating, She is 90,000 in the hole, from college, she is 21. Myself, I like to lift, take care of my dog/reef tank, go shooting at a range/take a trip to the woods (I HATE HUNTING SO PLEASE DON'T CALL ME A ANIMAL KILLER) I make 70k a year, and I live with my mom and dad... I have a BUNCH of stuff... every paycheck I get, I buy another rifle or upgrade TVs/new computer/new watch or put something on my car... I really need to get a life, I know this. DO I HAVE ANYTHING TO OFFER HER? I've already fantasized about my relationship with her, I really am not looking forward to helping her pay that 90k, I am really into her, but how to I act, do I be nice? or should I be kind of a dick? or should I treat it like a high school date, and be a *******? I am really going nuts here, what If she wants to have sex with me???? Ide only last like a 1 min or so.... do i go oral until orgasm, then my turn? Should I shave my pubic hair off? ( jumped the gun on that one...). should I hide my rifles/ammo? Well, I am going to stop for the night, I am feeling very shaky thinking about all this stuff...
ShoeGirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 SHE if very very very very independent, she moved out when she was 18, she payed for herself to get through college, it is very intimidating, She is 90,000 in the hole, from college, she is 21. You just described me... I would be willing to bet she doesn't see herself as intimidating. I didn't until my now bf told me that he was very intimidated when we met, he was afraid I'd turn him down for not being smart enough but here we are together a year later. Myself, I like to lift, take care of my dog/reef tank, go shooting at a range/take a trip to the woods (I HATE HUNTING SO PLEASE DON'T CALL ME A ANIMAL KILLER) I make 70k a year, and I live with my mom and dad... I have a BUNCH of stuff... every paycheck I get, I buy another rifle or upgrade TVs/new computer/new watch or put something on my car... I really need to get a life, I know this. DO I HAVE ANYTHING TO OFFER HER? It's up to her if you have anything to offer her, it's not about material possesions in my opinion. Just out of curiosity what kind of job do you have? I've already fantasized about my relationship with her, I really am not looking forward to helping her pay that 90k, I am really into her, but how to I act, do I be nice? or should I be kind of a dick? or should I treat it like a high school date, and be a *******? I am really going nuts here, what If she wants to have sex with me???? Ide only last like a 1 min or so.... do i go oral until orgasm, then my turn? Should I shave my pubic hair off? ( jumped the gun on that one...). should I hide my rifles/ammo? Why are you worrying about paying off her student loans? I would bet that if she is as independent as you say she is she is probably going to have a high paying job when she is done with school and can pay them off herself. My advice is to be yourself when you go out with her, don't intentionally act like an a$$ and don't intentionally act overly nice. IMO you shouldn't have sex with her on the first date, get to know her first. I wouldn't be put off by guns being around unless they were everywhere, f I were you I'd put them away but not necessarily hide them.
Author Ehaze Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 I only fantasized about all this, I don't think I would help her pay them off unless we were going to get married and such. Thanks for the advice on how I should act, I don't think I could have sex with her my first date, my brother could do so, but not me, and also... I will prob only last like 1 min, should I do something to get her off first? Ive only had sex 1 time, when i was 17. ive sucked kissed licked fingered plenty of other girls, more than I can remember, so I think i could prob give good oral, but for the little guy, I don't think ide give much pleasure.
tmarie55 Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Dude! Calm down. First off, go on the date, act yourself (this is very important) and see if you even like her. By no means "be a dick" even if you are not into her. That will just prove you ARE a dick...not that you just aren't into her. You can be polite and nice on a date and still get the message across that this won't go any further. It will be obvious there is no chemistry there OR you don't ask her out again, or call, or even tell your sister-in-law later "thanks but no thanks." As far as the debt is concerned...why are you even thinking that far ahead! You have your own disadvantages as does everyone (example: you live with your parents) which is fine, you're only 20. It sounds like she is not looking for someone to pay her loans...so why worry. I owe 60K in school loans and have lived on my own and have paid them for 8 years. I have never once thought about my loans when dating someone or looked for someone to pay them. As far as sex goes...don't worry about it...if girls like a guy they will appreciate the sincerity of the sex more than the act. Even more, any foreplay skills outweigh just plain pumping and grinding. It shows you care how she feels byt he attention you are giving...and a lot of girls will only come with oral sex...not all...but many. You need to find that out. Good luck...and CHILL out...girls like a chase too...so don't start talking about down the road paying loans! You're 20. Have fun!
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