LosingMyDreamGirl Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I met a girl at a bar 2 Saturdays ago. We seemed to hit it off very quick and was texting each other the same night we met. I hate talking on the phone, but for some reason felt compelled to call her, so i asked if I could. She wanted me to, so I did. We talked until 5 in the morning and we eventually went to sleep. The next day, we texted each other all day along, had a few phone calls and then around 4pm, I took her out to eat at Cheesecake Factory and we walked around an outside mall for several hours. We both had alot of fun and I even did a really cool magic trick for her. Sunday night we talked for about 2 hours on the phone. Monday we texted and talked on the phone. Tuesday, the power went out at my job and I felt like doing something really nice and drove to her job and left flowers on her car. She loved them. She told me several times she had never had a man be as nice to her as I had been. pretty much the rest of the week had been the same. Mutual exchanges of texts and phone calls. Now our texts mostly consisted of things like me telling her she was 'cute' or 'beautiful' or 'fun to talk to'... She would say things like me being 'handsome' or 'funny' or 'too nice'... I would also tell her that I wanted to 'kiss her cute little nose'. Oh, and kind of important, at least to me. Ever since we have met, every morning I get up, I have a text message from her that says 'Good Morning. I hope you have a good day!' or something very positive like that. But we talked about serious things too. Both of us had been cheated on by our first loves (her husband and my wife). We both have children by our first loves. We both want a relationship and we both love God. We also said we wanted to take things slow, which I do and I know she does too. Our main forms of communication is Texts, Email and Phone. Now dont get me wrong, we are both still young, so we still like to do the hanging out/party thing. So I went to a party at her friends house on Saturday night. We both drank (her more than me). We ended kissing some (I initiated, but she chose to get tongues involved). Yesterday we talked a little during the day and I called her last night, but she was super tired and went to bed kind of early. This morning I talked to her through email and she started telling me she wanted to take things slow. That she just wanted to be friends and wanted to see where God was leading her and wanted to make sure she knew when the right man came along. I felt like she was back peddling from what we had already discussed and talked about. She apologized for kissing me back and said she was wanting to take things slow and did not want to do that. She told me she was scared of me... of what I was. She has never had a guy as nice as me and everything seems 'too good to be true'. She said everything I had to offer is what she wants, but she doesnt know if she wants it right now. (She has been separated for 4 years and divorced for 3. She is 24 years old. I am 30, have been separated for 6 months and divorced for 2 weeks.) She said she is so accustomed to her single life, that it would be hard to change, yet she has told me she has been lonely for a long time and has wanted someone. She even told me she was crying to her mom that she wanted someone in her life THE MORNING before she met me. Did God answer her prayers? I dont knwo what to think. I have backed off. I sent her an email today around 3 saying I was going to my parents house and if she wanted to text me, she could. She texted me about 2 hours later asking if I was having fun. I sent one back about an hour later telling her I was and she sent one back saying good. I asked her if she had started cleaning on her house yet and she said she worked late and was just now picking up her daughter. I told her to drive safe and she said for me too also. I was talking to my parents about her and asking their advice and my dad asked if we had an inside joke. I told him about the 'Kissing her nose' and he said I should text it to her, so I did. She responded back with 'lol' and then about 5 minutes later asked if I had fun at my parents. I said I did, but that I was about to leave and I would call her later. She said 'cool'. I got home around 9:45 and texted her asking if she was awake. She didnt answer, so about 30 minutes later, I told her to have a good night. I am just very confused by the sudden use of the brakes. Please someone, fill me in. I really like her. We have so much in common and she really seems like a great mom. I want to do the right thing and really hope I did not do anything wrong. Please, ask any questions you may have and I will answer the best I can.
backspn Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 You're moving too fast. Slow down or you'll scare her away for good.
Author LosingMyDreamGirl Posted February 5, 2008 Author Posted February 5, 2008 You're moving too fast. Slow down or you'll scare her away for good. She was moving just as fast as me, that is what is confusing....
backspn Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Women are different. You move too fast they start to ask what you're motive is. Women are very strange indeed. They want more but then when they get it they freak. Slow down or you'll blowtorch her.
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