Kyle323 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I'm trying for a second chance. We've been communicating about it for a couple of months now. I'm not ready for a second chance relationship at the moment but probably soon. Everything was cool until she sent me this message: "I was not dating some guy and some dude. I dont know how you get that. I was talking to some guy and at one point talking to some dude. Yeah we went on dates but I was not dating either of them. I know you were not asking for a relationship or anything. You were talking about second chances, so I just wanted to get it out in the open that I didnt want to get involved with anyone." I'm confused, what is the definiton of dating? Should I give up? Should I ask for a second chance? Any thoughts? thanks kyle
oppath Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 going out with someone 2-3 times is not the same thing as dating necessarily. Dating may imply that it was a semi-frequent occurrence. the two things are the same, but there is a degree of difference. It sounds like she would go out once or twice but then tell them "I'm not interested." That's not the same thing as developing feelings and getting in a relationship.
ninjacookies Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I agree with the above post I dunno, I'm kind of in your same boat. When I broke it off with my ex before christmas, when we talked about a month after, she told me she didn't have a 'boyfriend' but had gone on a 'few dates.' I guess they were just cordial dates with no emotional or formal attachment...but maybe she was just lying. At least my interpretation of 'a few dates' means that they were interested in each other and pursuing a relationship....but maybe that's just me.
CaliGuy Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 I'm trying for a second chance. We've been communicating about it for a couple of months now. I'm not ready for a second chance relationship at the moment but probably soon. Everything was cool until she sent me this message: "I was not dating some guy and some dude. I dont know how you get that. I was talking to some guy and at one point talking to some dude. Yeah we went on dates but I was not dating either of them. I know you were not asking for a relationship or anything. You were talking about second chances, so I just wanted to get it out in the open that I didnt want to get involved with anyone." I'm confused, what is the definiton of dating? Should I give up? Should I ask for a second chance? Any thoughts? thanks kyle She's telling you to relax. Your best bet right now is to never bring up the relationship issue until she does. If you want a second chance, just live life and have fun and don't worry about the relationship. If it's meant to happen, it will.
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