casey001 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 My ex of two years dumped me via txt message saying he did not love me anymore. He moved on and got another gf the next day and hasn't contacted me since. My heart is completly ripped out and i just dont no how I can go on. The thought of him with someone else absolutly rips me to pieces. We used to be so in love and had a whole future planned together. Has anyone else been through this? And if so how can i get it off my mind? I cant eat or sleep and i cry constantly! How long will it take for the pain to go away? And should I go out and get a new partner aswell seen he did so quickly? I dont no how to cope with this and i really need some advice!
PinkRibbon Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Seems pretty cold of him to do this by text. Sounds like if he had her the next day then he had her in some way before you broke up. I am not sure how long it takes. Been 4 months for me and still very fresh. Only time will tell. Good luck and keep visiting. This is a great site to visit!
Haohmaru Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Stay up and keep posting! This site helped (is helping) me out a lot, but it took time just like everything does.
Haohmaru Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Also, I know my ex moves on much faster than I do. I have accepted this and am now content to "move on" at my pace, not hers. Focus on you.
Blue Eyed Brain Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Hang in there and use us as a support system. We're not perfect but we can sure put a smile on your face!
Grace112 Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I completely understand your confusion. I agree with PinkRibbon - this new gf didn't just show up the next day. It sounds like he was with this woman for awhile previously and didn't have the guts to tell you in person. He's a coward for hiding it from you and a coward for not being able to tell you in person. You're better off.
ANGUISHEDandBROKEN Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 I figure the same..... he already had her in mind.... About braking up by text message.........wanker, disrespectful bastard, coward...whatever. If he respected you he would say it in person. And the relationship hes in will not last (the grass is never greener). And he will start calling you again.....and you´ll tell him to *** off. And you´ll start feeling better and he will be all over the place again. Remember.....dumpers move on alot quicker than dumpees....but there is a reason for that....they simply felt less than you when they broke it off, but they have the same need as us for affection, and human touch. They get it before, but it never works out with the first or second person or third even.... you cant force the universe.... they will suffer also in their search....its all just a part of life. Self healing.....saying this for myself also.....
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 7, 2008 Posted February 7, 2008 Um I don't get it this is the exact same Qs you were asking in your Replaced in less than a day thread no?
Author casey001 Posted February 7, 2008 Author Posted February 7, 2008 Ya it is I guess! Sorry im just all over the place right now and desperatly unhappy! Im so confused with the whole thing so im sorry if my questions are similar!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 Its ok I just had to do a double take lol hope you feel better soon :0)
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 You weren't replaced quickly. It only seems that way. He was likely in the process of breaking up with you long before you actually broke up. By the time he broke up with you, he had already gone through a grieving process and was ready to move on. It seems abrupt because he hid all of that from you as it was happening. He kept you around as an emotional crutch and a source of comfort to get him through the falling out of love process. Unfortunately you do not get that same luxury. He has left you to do it all on your own. You are still stuck in the grieving process and it will take some time before you are ready to move on with someone else.
Glasliny Posted February 8, 2008 Posted February 8, 2008 He broke up with you very recently. I hate to sound like a cliche, but it'll take time. He is no doubt feeling guilty for doing what he did and the way he did it. He'd have to be a very VERY cold person not to realise. He knows himself what an absolute coward he has been. He'll deal with that in his own way. He might want to push you out of his mind because thinking of you reminds him of what a wanker he has been. Very selfish. At one point he genuinely did love you and care for you and to be honest he probably does still care about you as a person deep down but his selfish needs and cowardly ways are on the surface. In a couple of months time he will think about you now and again. But this is NOT the kind of man you want in your life. It can be overwhelming and the disbelief that someone who was supposed to love you and care about you (girlfriend or not) could treat you in such a manner. He might not want you back but he WILL regret the way he broke up with you and I promise it will haunt him for a while but he will move on. You have to move on. You must dig deep and find that strength to push forward. Let yourself cry with wracking sobs and punch the bed and wail and talk to the void, trying to reason with it and ask questions that may never get answered. Day by day pet. That's all you can do. I'm genuinely sorry this has happened to you. I know this might be the internet, but I feel for you. I really do. [btw I'm new to this site, hi everyone!]
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