Author AriaIncognito Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 My girlfriend is 33 and I’m 48. When we first met I thought that she was way too young for me and that we could never have much in common. As it’s turned out I can’t imagine anyone being anymore compatible. The age difference just doesn’t matter. I suppose there's really no bounds to love where it happens to exist, if it ever develops. Like I said before, I'm willing to see if it even gets beyond the casual dating phase, but I'm pretty sure it's something that is on both of our minds. A lot of questions have to be asked in order to know if you're compatible with someone ultimately, and of course thats way more than we've discussed lol. He's a nice person from what I know of him thusfar, and I'm not willing to discount him based solely on age, but I do wonder if it'll end up a dealbreaker down the line, for some reason. Every relationship I've been in has eventually had a deal breaker uncovered, so it is what it is. I suppose there's no harm in a few dates and then re-evaluating. What have I got to lose?
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 With age gaps, I think it's best to slow things way down and really get a feel for where each person is in life. I don't have any experience with it yet, but that's my plan. Saxis, that's a good plan. Theres no sense in rushing ANY relationship, age difference being 1 day or 20 years. If you like someone today, you could still like them the same 1 year from now, or 10 years from now, so really, what's the rush right? I think we become so bent over our own self imposed guidelines (I'll be married by X and have kids by X and retire at X etc etc) that we lose sight of why we are really in this, to find someone to spend our lives with.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 It's funny you should post this thread. Honestly, if you like the guy then go on a few more dates with him and see where it goes. I don't think age has as much to do with relationship success as do the compatability and character of the the two involved. Why do you find it funny that I should post this thread? Just curious.... lol
underpants Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Why do you find it funny that I should post this thread? Just curious.... lol There is an older gentleman that is smitten with me.
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 There is an older gentleman that is smitten with me. Oh reaaaaaaaally. ;-) How much older? You gonna pursue it? I'm not even sure if I know your age... Do tell Missy hehehe
norajane Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 There is an older gentleman that is smitten with me. There's an epidemic. Me, too!
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 There's an epidemic. Me, too! You know I want details from you too.... Man, lust/like/love is in the air for us LSers hehehehe
norajane Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 You know I want details from you too.... Man, lust/like/love is in the air for us LSers hehehehe I don't know what's going on, but every time I go out during bad weather, I end up getting kissed. He's 10 or 12 years older than me, met him through a friend when we were all out. Interesting guy, likes to ski, was a gentleman, good looking, successful, divorced. But I think we're very different and we don't have much in common. Or maybe I just wasn't feelin' it. So I probably won't be going out on any dates with him, although it's likely I'll run into him again. I asked myself if I would I be more into him if he were closer to my age, or if I just really didn't see a connection. I think it's a little of both.
burning 4 revenge Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I don't know what's going on, but every time I go out during bad weather, I end up getting kissed. He's 10 or 12 years older than me, met him through a friend when we were all out. Interesting guy, likes to ski, was a gentleman, good looking, successful, divorced. But I think we're very different and we don't have much in common. Or maybe I just wasn't feelin' it. So I probably won't be going out on any dates with him, although it's likely I'll run into him again. I asked myself if I would I be more into him if he were closer to my age, or if I just really didn't see a connection. I think it's a little of both.Ill rescue you when I move back there, so don't worry about it
Author AriaIncognito Posted February 6, 2008 Author Posted February 6, 2008 I don't know what's going on, but every time I go out during bad weather, I end up getting kissed. He's 10 or 12 years older than me, met him through a friend when we were all out. Interesting guy, likes to ski, was a gentleman, good looking, successful, divorced. But I think we're very different and we don't have much in common. Or maybe I just wasn't feelin' it. So I probably won't be going out on any dates with him, although it's likely I'll run into him again. I asked myself if I would I be more into him if he were closer to my age, or if I just really didn't see a connection. I think it's a little of both. Sad that you didn't feel a connection. Mine is even older than that to me. Like, a high school kid's age when they graduate older LOL. Polite, seems intelligent, attractive, etc. Who knows. Like I said, I'm up for seeing if anything can come of it. If not, well then maybe I'll have somebody to kiss for a few weeks lol. (haven't done that yet...I was too scared on our first date or whatever you classify it as when a man asks you to do something and then pays for everything lol).
norajane Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Ill rescue you when I move back there, so don't worry about it I'm saved! Sad that you didn't feel a connection. Mine is even older than that to me. Like, a high school kid's age when they graduate older LOL. Polite, seems intelligent, attractive, etc. Who knows. Like I said, I'm up for seeing if anything can come of it. If not, well then maybe I'll have somebody to kiss for a few weeks lol. (haven't done that yet...I was too scared on our first date or whatever you classify it as when a man asks you to do something and then pays for everything lol). The older generation calls that a date!
underpants Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I don't know what's going on, but every time I go out during bad weather, I end up getting kissed. This made me laugh. I apologized to this guy for...attacking him (a little bit). Then I went and did it again. ... He is 10 years older. Odd to look into the eyes of someone with bifocals then realize that you want to try them on because you might need them yourself really soon. He is a handsome and fit fellow with a full head of silver hair (I wonder if the carpet matches the drapes...). I am just terrible. He seems nice. However, I don't know him very well. I have been very deprived and I should not let my horndog ways interfere or hurt somebody (especially me).
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