INNUCENT Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 My Boyfriend And I Have Only Been Together For 4 Months, But We Love Each Other Dearly. Went I Got With Him At First I Didn't Know That He Was Gonna Be Having A Child In A Bout 5 Months. Within The First 2 Weeks He Told Me That He Was. At First I Just Thought Wow And Was Like Maybe We Can See What Happens. Then About 2 Months Into It I Found Out That He Had Cheated On Me Twice. He Confessed To It And I Tried To Break Up With Him. He Apologized Cried And Promised Not To Do It Again. I Took Him Back. Then I Was With Him And His Baby Mama Who I Had Never Seen Started Cursing Up A Storm Towards Him And He Would Go Over To Her House Every Now And Again, Supposedly To Check On Ther Baby And How It Is. Then One Day I Confronted Her And I Aint Scary So I Got All Up In Her Face Telling Her What Not To Do And I Let Her Know That If She Wants Him Then She Could Have Him. He Was Right There And They Both Said They Don't Want Each Other So I Told Her Not To Be Trying To Pick A Fight Over Something That She Doesn't Want Or Have. I Honestly Don't Feel Like Wasting My Time With This Situation That's About To Occur. The Baby Is Due March 11th And I'm Not Feeling To Good About The Situation. He Says He Wants Me To Be With Me, He Loves Me, And That He Never Wants Me To Leave. We Love Each Other And I Know That For A Fact. I Just Don't Know If It's Worth The Time. Plus, She's Gonna Make Me Hurt Her Real Bad By Disrespecting Me Like She's Been Doing...i'm Young And I'm Not Planning On Have Kids Any Time Soon Or Dealing With Them..what Should I Do????????
mopar crazy Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 Honestly, if I was in this situation I would RUN! Sorry you are dealing w/ this mess.
Ms. Red Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 See this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=141910 and follow that advice you were given there.
sally4sara Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 What is she doing that is disrespectful towards you? Was it that she cursed him out? Was she cursing him out for being with you? I ask because any beef with them was probably there before you were involved unless she was mad about him being with someone else. I also can understand him going by and seeing how she is coming along with the baby; if you can't handle that then walk away. But I'm having trouble understanding why you felt like you had to get in her face. What has she done to make you feel you needed to chew her out?
ICallsEmAsISeesEm Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 LOL, well I could tell you were young - that's a no-brainer. I wouldn't invest too much time in this creep who has no problem impregnating random women and acting like he was raised in the ghetto. Four months in and this loser's already screwed around on you twice. I wouldn't let this jerk take my garbage out - FORGET letting him touch me. Aim higher. Like maybe a guy with a job, character, and integrity.
Meaplus3 Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 My Boyfriend And I Have Only Been Together For 4 Months, But We Love Each Other Dearly. Went I Got With Him At First I Didn't Know That He Was Gonna Be Having A Child In A Bout 5 Months. Within The First 2 Weeks He Told Me That He Was. At First I Just Thought Wow And Was Like Maybe We Can See What Happens. Then About 2 Months Into It I Found Out That He Had Cheated On Me Twice. He Confessed To It And I Tried To Break Up With Him. He Apologized Cried And Promised Not To Do It Again. I Took Him Back. Then I Was With Him And His Baby Mama Who I Had Never Seen Started Cursing Up A Storm Towards Him And He Would Go Over To Her House Every Now And Again, Supposedly To Check On Ther Baby And How It Is. Then One Day I Confronted Her And I Aint Scary So I Got All Up In Her Face Telling Her What Not To Do And I Let Her Know That If She Wants Him Then She Could Have Him. He Was Right There And They Both Said They Don't Want Each Other So I Told Her Not To Be Trying To Pick A Fight Over Something That She Doesn't Want Or Have. I Honestly Don't Feel Like Wasting My Time With This Situation That's About To Occur. The Baby Is Due March 11th And I'm Not Feeling To Good About The Situation. He Says He Wants Me To Be With Me, He Loves Me, And That He Never Wants Me To Leave. We Love Each Other And I Know That For A Fact. I Just Don't Know If It's Worth The Time. Plus, She's Gonna Make Me Hurt Her Real Bad By Disrespecting Me Like She's Been Doing...i'm Young And I'm Not Planning On Have Kids Any Time Soon Or Dealing With Them..what Should I Do???????? Hi There, I don't see any reason why you would even consider continuing an R with this guy.. He's about to become a dad with another woman's child.. and he's say's he's in love with you??...That's just wrong! Listen...your young and there's lot's of single unattached men out there to choose from..If I were you..I would forget about this guy and move on.. AP:)
OWoman Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 These threads would be a lot easier to read if you wrote with proper punctuation and not in Title Case. Some paragraph breaks would really help!
whichwayisup Posted February 5, 2008 Posted February 5, 2008 You Know When You Read Threads Like This And Always Use Capitals Are Usually Trolls.
wyldflower Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Your other thread was better. I think I've been away for a week too long. Are you guys thinking that INNUCENT (grrrr - grammatical and spelling errors (especially intentional) are like fingernails down a chalkboard, aren't they?) is aka Lila?
nellstar Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 That's the thing... I've been thinking about this since last night. I know I have seen the Title Case somewhere... and there was another thread about a girl who made out with a guy in the car, he gave her his cellphone number and she called... some other girl answered, turned out to be the guy's GF and is pregnant.... Now... this... and yes, the Title Case, no punctuations....
wyldflower Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 How sad..both the lack of lower case and the need to post under psychotic pseudonyms. Lol. Just been reading Lila's post. If she is as crazy as she sounds then a multiple posting personality seems believable.
wyldflower Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 Ooooh...just came across a post written in Title Case by Lila her "why is he treating me this way?" thread. The plot thickens...
littlekitty Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 On the presumption you aren't a troll: Firstly, it's not your place to be dealing with his ex. Let him deal with her. If she's disrespecting you, he needs to address that, not you. Secondly, if you don't want to be involved with children then walk away now. You WILL have to be if you want to stay in a relationship with this man. He will expect and want you to care about his child. If you decide to stay with him, understand it's going to a long hard journey! I suspect it may take a long time (from my experience) for his ex to settle down with the situation and for things to become calmer. Expect more sh*t to hit the fan when baby is born. He's cheated on you twice! Is he really worth all of this? Believe me, for you to get through this situation he's going to need to be damn worth having. It is possible to get through this type of situation. When I met my husband he had left his exgf and son of 9 months only a short time previously. We took things slowly, but his exgf soon found out and caused us a huge amount of problems. She tried to stop him seeing his son, me being around when he had his son. She abused me, tried to split us up, acussed him of cheating on me with her, accused me of cheating on him with someone she knew, chased me down the road trying to hit me... I could go on. Some three years and a marriage later, things are pretty good. We see his son every weekend and he is a HUGE part of our lives. His exgf is now amicable towards me. We can speak when necessary and she understands that I look after her son well, and that her son cares about me. It was a long hard slog getting this far though. And I'm not sure I would have done it if I hadn't found such a wonderful man. Most certainly not for someone who had cheated on me.
OWoman Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 You Know When You Read Threads Like This And Always Use Capitals Are Usually Trolls. Didn't one of them blame her word processor when she was called on it, and then suddenly start posting in perfect punctuation - even with paragraph breaks?
herenow Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 I wonder if Lila is related to Bella? Oh Bella, she was a fun one! I kinda miss her. That was one series of threads where we all got along.
wyldflower Posted February 6, 2008 Posted February 6, 2008 OMG, Lila/Dana/INNUCENT. Are you typing this whilst wallowing in your own bodily fluids in an adult-sized nappy, with lipstick smeared all over your (possibly bearded) face and old Bugsy simmering in the slow cooker? Some people have way too much time on their hands.
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